tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60731410546097301682024-02-20T10:48:31.560+00:00claire 'n' fishOn a new adventure..... Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.comBlogger255125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-3836826526282026522023-11-26T09:25:00.000+00:002023-11-26T09:25:02.043+00:00Dropping the Mentos<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6IFdjw2kKWcRsPC5PoU6NAmEMKSzHRGBlkb571CZKIXuLmkuPA5ykjKmJsguV6N7_cXYVOsWnDDASuPX4JZs6L4oB_IywfjDzqBX7MH3-0Ppp2uodflKTm0WgT1bqvTPAC_q_P_qUxutlnBK6lNYz4_osX1ql5VvMu3qUyzlyL549ul98FhFNisJQRAs/s1280/maxresdefault.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6IFdjw2kKWcRsPC5PoU6NAmEMKSzHRGBlkb571CZKIXuLmkuPA5ykjKmJsguV6N7_cXYVOsWnDDASuPX4JZs6L4oB_IywfjDzqBX7MH3-0Ppp2uodflKTm0WgT1bqvTPAC_q_P_qUxutlnBK6lNYz4_osX1ql5VvMu3qUyzlyL549ul98FhFNisJQRAs/s320/maxresdefault.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />I remember when I first saw someone drop mentos into a bottle of coke. It was in a field, far enough away from the Boys Brigade bell tents to not cause a sticky mess on the (despite having tent inspection a few hours ago) chaos inside. As the mentos dropped, the bubbles got rather enthusiastic and the bottle jumped, bounced, exploded as those watching sprang back and watched. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">What was really happening was that as the mentos dropped, the bubbles weren't just dancing from the sidelines, they had attached themselves to the tiny pits all over the surface of the mint. The bubbles want to attach themselves, but there is a fight between the mint (which is heavy and wants to sink to the bottom) and the bubbles, and as the bubbles push upwards, the mentos sink, pushing the soda up and out of the bottle with a blast (or something like that).</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Our insides can feel a bit like a bottle of fizzy. We have so much going on - so many active bubbles dancing around - the whirlwind of emotions trying to balance the complexities of life. It's OK when we're stood still, but movement can leave us precarious for a while. If someone unscrewed our lid, we don't know what we would do. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And then someone drops in the mentos. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The mentos come in different forms - the facebook post that clicks our button, the email at the wrong moment, the voice from the past back to haunt us, triggering the memories that brought us to now. The one thing too many in a world that feels unstable right now, the news that hits us where it hurts. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And then we explode - we become the person we said we would never be and as we see the effect we can't stop the ferocious fountain, and the sticky mess reaches the already chaotic place we find ourselves in. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There is too much right now for many of us that could be our own mentos and we need to be careful about the positions we find ourselves in. There are far too many places we could be the mentos for others and we need to be gracious in our thinking about where we let go. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been thinking a lot about Philippians 4 lately as I've been trying to avoid being part of the mentos drop. It's hard to reflect on the goodness sometimes when something has made you angry, and I got really quite annoyed with a friend who told me to do this recently, because I wanted to rant..... but when the ranting is over, the fizziness subsides, and in the stillness, the reflection is easier - and reflecting on the goodness becomes more of who we are. It doesn't mean the problem necessarily goes away, but it helps us to hold it differently. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious - the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realised. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies" </i>Philippians 4:8-9 (MSG) </span></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">May the fizziness inside you find a place where the bubbles can rest. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-30665695538278578322023-08-27T17:16:00.000+01:002023-08-27T17:16:05.471+01:00On Walking Alone part 3..... <p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />At a <a href="http://londonbaptists.org.uk/stories/empowering-women-leaders">conference for Women Leaders</a>, I was chairing a question panel and a question I asked got thrown back in my direction like a boomerang, and as often happens when unexpected things are thrown at me, I bumbled my way through the answer with a bit of waffle. The question was something about what things need to be put in place to thrive as a single woman in ministry. I've chewed a bit on this question ever since. As <a href="https://clairenfish.blogspot.com/2019/04/on-walking-alone.html">I've mentioned before in this blog</a>, I am a very settled single. My singleness is often more of a problem (or status of intrigue) for others than it is for me. As I have changed jobs, the question of marital status and family life has been raised again, and the big question of where I find support has been brought up in many a conversation. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJrPYoH0rAgVuidQ0AP1q6OG_UJfEyMrH8l5wsNjXeM_BIGujpFBXwftKMFWgh4u8cvqO6qAhfcF5h_M7KbcjDN-g6-TDO2PYIU0BhgR2Bet8s6sd8qk78natG07NcPrDz6w2ikBiv8LcxAuHSCfgrUaVq92qQe6MnzCUbzmWFUVNtDRuQEUAl0jU5T2Y/s3000/free-photo-of-a-woman-walking-alone-at-the-beach.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3000" data-original-width="2400" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJrPYoH0rAgVuidQ0AP1q6OG_UJfEyMrH8l5wsNjXeM_BIGujpFBXwftKMFWgh4u8cvqO6qAhfcF5h_M7KbcjDN-g6-TDO2PYIU0BhgR2Bet8s6sd8qk78natG07NcPrDz6w2ikBiv8LcxAuHSCfgrUaVq92qQe6MnzCUbzmWFUVNtDRuQEUAl0jU5T2Y/s320/free-photo-of-a-woman-walking-alone-at-the-beach.jpeg" width="256" /></a></div><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Whilst my answer to the question at the conference ended up with 'I model myself on Miranda really', I think that there is a better answer than that, and during the last week as I have spent a lot of time with family and led the wedding celebration service for my nephew - the first of the generation below me to get married - I've been reflecting on this. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Everybody is different. I'm an introvert for a start, which means I am very happy with my own company, and that helps. I don't need to be with other people to fill my sink up - although sometimes I do. But, there are things I have intentionally put in place (and other things I have just been blessed with), which might help answer the question. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have the amazing blessing of a good and close family who understand ministry. I know that if I need to talk to someone who gets it and gets me, then I have that support on the end of the phone. My family lives too far away for my liking, and it is no secret that before I settled in South London I asked God to move me to the Midlands so I could be closer to more of my family. He chose not to, but because of that, I've made sure that I put some flexibility into my diary so that I can see my family if I need to..... and I have learnt that I shouldn't feel guilty about that. I am at my best when I make time to spend time with those who know me best and love me unconditionally. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have a network of friends who I've built up over the years who don't need me to be their minister - those who give as much and more than they get. I have friends who check up on me, who remember the significant moments in my diary and who pray for me regularly. Most of them live far away, but we manage - and I'm a good base for going into London so, although I don't always get chance to travel, my house is a convenient hotel for guests who are happy to mow my grass (although it's not compulsory). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Since being in ministry I have chosen to opt in to local Baptist family support networks. Nobody gets Baptist ministry like a Baptist minister. I have been blessed with honest, gracious and wise cluster groups and local colleagues who have walked with me through some of the most difficult bits of the journey and celebrated with me through the good stuff. Never underestimate the support of those around. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And finally, I make sure I have distractions from ministry, even if it means relying on myself to provide the fun! I walk to think things through, stomping out my frustrations, finding stillness and talking it out with God. I have learnt the art of eating alone without feeling odd and I love a spontaneous solo theatre or concert trip. You don't need other people to be free to do these things. I have joined a choir, because I know a good sing always makes the world better. The choir demands nothing of me, but gives me community. And if in doubt, there are always boxsets. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I can't say that it is always easy, and I get it wrong sometimes, and days off can be just me being a terrible grump (stay away!). I need two hours to wind down after an evening meeting, and that can be a lonely place. But, I'm aware that we all struggle and I don't have to have everything sorted. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">One thing that I was taught at college was that if something drains your sink, always put something in place to fill it up - so I always try to follow up a difficult visit or conversation with something good - whether that's meeting someone who always makes me feel better, or going to that place where God feels close and the beauty of creation sings good things into my soul. I try not to stay empty for too long and I've learned to recognise the signs. I'm a chronic overthinker and regularly have anxiety nightmares, and I'm trying out new things to help with that. Not always successful, but I'm trying. My most recent mantra is "you've said it, you can't change it now, leave it behind". When you are on your own, you learn to self soothe instead of having another person do that for you, and that does take a lot of effort sometimes, but it's worth it. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">At the end and the beginning of all of this, I come back to the fact that God called me as me - and that includes my relationship status. I don't need to have what anyone else has or be who anyone else thinks I should be, because God knew who I was and who I will become before he called me by name. I have confidence in God, and that is what matters. If I can keep coming back to that, I think - I know - all will be well. And that, when everything else has fallen away, is what keeps me being all that he has made me to be. For that, I am eternally thankful.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" Isaiah 41:10</i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"> </span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-55367562441830231832023-06-23T08:06:00.001+01:002023-06-23T08:06:17.171+01:00Fifty….<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDOS8agBaRoQQVJo578dIK3SOg17wPShz2aghCqzEf4vuJ_zSVVfrbtGI7W2N3Xdhy-9yv7N-vQylVd5YGiDQYkKunN-t-hvqmf_IBRyaG6Sy9j4phaYqpM6mToaD4LimpDOSrn3gY_Jh0_wMHBeNvcshUyhZaqzoBa1LAxxTv5hcdqkJUrNrrdL2d_PM/s960/dad%20ordination.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="698" height="382" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDOS8agBaRoQQVJo578dIK3SOg17wPShz2aghCqzEf4vuJ_zSVVfrbtGI7W2N3Xdhy-9yv7N-vQylVd5YGiDQYkKunN-t-hvqmf_IBRyaG6Sy9j4phaYqpM6mToaD4LimpDOSrn3gY_Jh0_wMHBeNvcshUyhZaqzoBa1LAxxTv5hcdqkJUrNrrdL2d_PM/w278-h382/dad%20ordination.jpg" width="278" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />Fifty years of ordained ministry. Quite an achievement. I don't know what the stats are on how long the average time in ministry is, but I do know fifty years is a long time. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">My Dad Brian, my favourite Dad. I have never known him not to be a minister. He was my local church minister for the first fifteen years of my life, and although he then went on to minister in another context, he has continued to be a role model in my life, particularly as I have taken my own journey into ordained ministry which has, in some ways (although I am reluctant to admit it) gone in a similar direction, but in others, diverted as I have explored my own calling, not exactly following his footsteps, but with something in the genes that clearly shines through us both - both inspired by our pioneering Baptist ancestors, which, we have discovered more recently originated from our family of bootmakers from Hampshire and non-conformists from North Wales. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">My Dad, from whom I have inherited my stubbornness and tenacity, my sense of humour and my left wing tendencies. He stands on his head to make a point (I still don’t know what that point is) and makes giant sheep and angels out of cardboard boxes. My Dad, who I am both similar and very different to (don't expect us to have the same views on or ways of approaching situations). Today marks 50 years of ordained ministry. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Dad was called to ministry as a teenager from Durham City Baptist Church. This was the church where he grew up as it grew up. His parents - my Grandparents were part of the group of 'convinced Baptists' who began to meet together in Durham in 1949, and, two years later, in the year my Dad was born, the church was formally constituted - the family stories say that he was the first baby to be dedicated in the newly planted church. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I was born when my Dad was ministering in his first churches in Derbyshire. I've been told that he was the 'cool, young Baptist minister with a young family and a guitar'. I grew up with him leading the ministry at Mansfield Road Baptist Church in Nottingham - the church on the corner - a huge building with many different rooms and activities to fill them. It was a privilege to have my Dad as my minister. In the school holidays and days off I'd go down to church with my Mum and sit in what I remember being a cavernous office - the ultimate reward being getting to play with the ball of elastic bands on his desk and roll out the carpets for toddler group. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Children of the manse would make for an interesting and challenging research project. You hear stories of rebellion and turning away from God, and for my peers in ministry with children, I know it is a continuous challenge. When Dad retired my brothers, sister and I shared some of our stories of what life was like growing up and how we all ended up Ok really - we were all baptised by our Dad and all continue to have faith which we express in different ways in different contexts. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Growing up, the expectation was that we would be involved in church - we knew that Dad's job was more than just a job, that it was life, and as children we were part of that. We attended evening services with our reading books from a very young age, and I'm sure fell asleep on the pews quite regularly. We were deeply involved in church life, but we also were protected from the realities of ministry by my parents, which I am very grateful for. They didn't talk about the challenges and the pain that inevitably are part of the journey in front of us, but made sure we had the opportunities we needed to grow in faith. We don't know what it took to get a good Sunday School and Youth Group into our lives - but that's what happened and that's where my faith grew and I am grateful for that. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I grew up and learned to listen better, I was blessed with my Dad as my minister to hear some really good preaching. A few years ago I went through the family archives chest of surprises and I found a newspaper article about how in 1994 Dad appeared in the "Good Preachers Guide" - nominated by a church member I think. The article talks about how he had come a long way from his first preach at 16, when he preached for 45 minutes a sermon that was full of awful jokes - he was pulled aside afterwards by a member of his congregation and told to never to preach that way again otherwise they wouldn't commend him for ministry (thankfully he calmed down the bad jokes and they did). As my Dad left local church ministry to become Area Superintendent in the West Midlands area and after I left home, I realised how much I'd been spoiled, and it is a pleasure on trips to Derbyshire now (where life has gone full circle for my Mum and Dad who have ended up where they started) to hear my Dad preach. If you've ever heard/seen both him and me preach you might notice that I've inherited my preacher hand moves from him.... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">When I finally felt ready to follow my own call to ministry, I knew that my Dad would be there at my side. He has been one of my best companions on the road. It's so handy to have someone who knows both me and the journey of ministry so well to talk to if I need to (not that that has happened that often - I've always believed that I've been called to ministry as me and not to emulate his ways, and so have been determined to be independent from my Dad in ministry, stubbornly perhaps, but then that is probably a family trait). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As a role model in ministry, I am so pleased I have Dad. He and my Mum taught me that God often calls you where you don't expect (or perhaps even want?) to go, and so in settlement, although the idea of me going to South London was confusing to us all, I went in the knowledge that God's call is more than my own ideas and ambitions - and as I look back I see that both in their life and mine. He's taught me that whilst ministry inevitably takes over your life, there is still place for fun and for family and things that bring joy. He's taught me that holidays are a place to switch off, and to withdraw from situations for a while when it's all too much - time can really be a healer. As I bring to him the stories of all the oddities of ministry and people, he regularly comes back with similarly surprising stories that remind me that it's not just me and I will find a way through. His pastoral voice continues to bring peace when the journey is tough and one of the best things in life is when he says he is proud of me. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJPlVnW1ULhhs-3YpesMZsXvsMZtaPeCcC_R5Z_2RMpBz1zWRx8rsCLGWgRy0RAWOrDnC8HPF_QrH8x7mtExRyuOvyfHRL7sAbK52N-m7uhkMlVXCQJfLxiwh_4Nvgzu7cJ5hJe7xRVI4H4lWD30qFiuHif5Llwe6RDAdDXfikyyuNK-fGzVCPOapWTjg/s960/dad%20my%20ordination.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="958" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJPlVnW1ULhhs-3YpesMZsXvsMZtaPeCcC_R5Z_2RMpBz1zWRx8rsCLGWgRy0RAWOrDnC8HPF_QrH8x7mtExRyuOvyfHRL7sAbK52N-m7uhkMlVXCQJfLxiwh_4Nvgzu7cJ5hJe7xRVI4H4lWD30qFiuHif5Llwe6RDAdDXfikyyuNK-fGzVCPOapWTjg/s320/dad%20my%20ordination.jpg" width="319" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana;">One of my favourite pictures of my Dad is when he is explaining what ordination means at my own ordination. I was ordained as he prepared to retire from his final full time ministry post in Leeds - a passing on of the baton perhaps. He has his hands round my youngest nephew's neck (gently!) and he is reminding the congregation that when a minister is called to serve that it is not a calling for the church to strangle or smother or put their minister in a box. A minister is called by God as the person that God has made them to be, and is given the responsibility to lead the church forwards, to discern God's vision with the church and follow God's way. My Dad has not only encouraged that, but has also demonstrated that, by always putting God first and being faithful to his calling, even in the most difficult of situations where he could have just walked away. I am inspired by this, and it has helped me to not only survive, but thrive and continue to minister both when things have been rocky and when things have been a joy. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As role models go, I think I've been spoilt. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So to my favourite Dad, who I hope doesn't mind me drawing attention to this milestone - congratulations on 50 faithful years. Thank you. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">God is good, all the time - may he bless you abundantly with his wisdom and goodness and may that flow out of you to bless the ones that you continue to serve. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-34843363025568461792023-03-18T13:21:00.006+00:002023-03-18T13:28:45.868+00:00Don't forget to Breathe.....<p><br /></p><div style="text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPp30DD3E7stnMpeztRx0PF4NPjyLposQ6qN6dC7V1Ugps6hLH0N40baQnz8BwtbPc6I1557LGwqKgDMamtp1Ifnyeg86Fo6efEO7gtLIhtgDuA3yOhVlAsj_E6MCipj-0nqSMCnR4Lr0gLNYbbu8hQ21SnFeekoyf7lRU522VJ9yiKhLWCtr2szoQ/s843/boats.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="474" data-original-width="843" height="225" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPp30DD3E7stnMpeztRx0PF4NPjyLposQ6qN6dC7V1Ugps6hLH0N40baQnz8BwtbPc6I1557LGwqKgDMamtp1Ifnyeg86Fo6efEO7gtLIhtgDuA3yOhVlAsj_E6MCipj-0nqSMCnR4Lr0gLNYbbu8hQ21SnFeekoyf7lRU522VJ9yiKhLWCtr2szoQ/w400-h225/boats.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br /><span><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span>"</span><span style="font-family: verdana;">You just chase your dreams, you don't even take the time to sleep. <br /></span><span style="font-family: verdana;">But don't forget to breathe. Don't forget to breathe.<br /></span><span style="font-family: verdana;">And when you're down and out, just hold on, please.<br /></span><span style="font-family: verdana;">Or just close your eyes and count to three<br /></span><span style="font-family: verdana;">But don't forget to breathe. Don't forget to breathe" <i>Stormzy</i></span></div><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There's a lot to make us angry at the moment. There's a lot to make us shout. There are polarised views and there's injustice and disappointment. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There's a lot to make us sad at the moment. There's a lot to to make us weep. There's bad news and there are broken lives and there's so much devastation. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There's a lot to make us anxious at the moment. There's a lot to make us worry. There's uncertainty and there are stumbling blocks and potholes. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the midst of it all, don't forget to breathe. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">At the end of a week with all of the stuff in it the other week, I saw an advert for Pro Plus on the tram, promising to make me feel more awake if I took Caffeine tablets. The solution was not to pause, but to make it possible to keep going. The makers of Pro Plus know that's how the world works.....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But I'd rather not, because I know that to put the things in place to make me go faster only means that the shouting, the weeping, the worrying - it'll become harder to contain, and it will overwhelm. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I'd rather find the time to rest, the time to sleep and the time to be still and know that God is God. God puts rest at the centre of the ten commandments. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">He's big enough to hold the landscape. He's strong enough to hold the broken. He holds the stable place amongst the uncertainty. He brings peace even in the places where peace seems impossible. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the midst of it all, don't forget to breathe. </span></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">You'd love to change everything now, you lose sleep because you can't see how.</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">But don't forget to breathe. Don't forget to breathe. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">And when you don't know where to turn, just be still, please.</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Just close your eyes and rest in God.</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Don't forget to breathe. Don't forget to breathe. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Breathe in peace </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Breathe in joy</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Breathe in love </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Breathe in strength</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"Like a shepherd, he will care for his flock, gathering the lambs in his arms, hugging them as he carries them, leading the nursing ewes to good pasture" Isaiah 40:11 (MSG)</i></span></div><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-10047188364459637462023-02-21T09:36:00.002+00:002023-02-21T09:36:48.150+00:00A musical journey….<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3PEeYfql3nysRKiMu28wpOP3EMM2z2DivpZ44emsgaKP4OGsIe4kJ65ghXSFQu7W6KYMsLmaBZ54h4dzA_yOHi74UUggQx0bhSdnrw-zBvtB3fWJKVkZfZLZleG7RPSTtvnNzxwolH6n3d6p63vo5FXyRyp_0ZnHpj7RLNEBCvqTLo0KBA6bJHdIO/s2048/IMG_5592.JPEG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3PEeYfql3nysRKiMu28wpOP3EMM2z2DivpZ44emsgaKP4OGsIe4kJ65ghXSFQu7W6KYMsLmaBZ54h4dzA_yOHi74UUggQx0bhSdnrw-zBvtB3fWJKVkZfZLZleG7RPSTtvnNzxwolH6n3d6p63vo5FXyRyp_0ZnHpj7RLNEBCvqTLo0KBA6bJHdIO/s320/IMG_5592.JPEG" width="240" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;">I</span><span style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"> love music. Good music makes my heart sing. I wake up in the morning and I listen to music. Music accompanies my day. When I’m feeling stressed a loud piano play helps me to find my way. I love to sit and listen and watch live music being created. One of my most precious moments was when I had my sound portrait painted and as the musicians played it felt like everything was right with the world. Music speaks of the beauty and glory of God and inspires my faith. A song caught in the air reminds me of the time I first heard it and the story of the journey I was on at the time. </span></span><p></p><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I collect songs - the songs that have become my theme songs in certain times and places - the songs that continue to speak to me and remind me of my calling and my identity in Christ. They are the songs that have got me through, that for a while I have listened to every morning to remind me of who I am and where I’m going. They are the songs that were in the right place at the right time. </span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I prepare to leave New Addington I’ve been reflecting on some of the songs that have documented my journey through the last few years of surprising and unexpected events. A bit like the desert island discs of my journey. They are on a playlist <a href="https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL7pcQc2OBUV6CxOHzQFUxvz0Et2NfU4TB">here</a> . I won’t write about them all but here are four….</span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>You Say - Lauren Daigle</i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="322" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/sIaT8Jl2zpI" width="491" youtube-src-id="sIaT8Jl2zpI"></iframe></div><br /><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">My brilliant friend introduced me to this song at a time I was doubting my own abilities as I was exploring moving on before I even knew New Addington existed. It sat on repeat as I travelled further south than I ever expected and on my first drive to church after I had moved to New Addington it came on the radio (a surprise as I didn’t know it had been released). It speaks about how when the voices around you are saying you are not enough, when you’re suffering from imposter syndrome, that God says you are enough. Sometimes you need to hear that. I did for a time…. It reminds me of my friend, who has been a constant companion on the journey into and through ministry and, whenever I see her, her presence just makes everything seem right. </span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>For a time like this - Bethel Worship Arts (feat Cidney Dobrodt)</i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="296" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lhBlVQ0J7mo" width="473" youtube-src-id="lhBlVQ0J7mo"></iframe></div><br /><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I stumbled across this song when preparing for worship as we sank deeper into lockdown and it became my theme song for a while. I listened to it every morning and whilst I was delivering food and letters to people. It spoke to me as the frustrations of the pandemic affected everyone and everything and caused brokenness and conflict. This song kept me going through the most difficult of days.</span></div><div style="caret-color: rgb(69, 69, 69); color: #454545;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">It came on in the car the other day and revisiting it reminded me of that time, the words “you were made for a time like this” singing to me in a new way as I have come to the realisation in the last few months that my calling to NABC has been for a season, that I was called here to lead the church through covid but not in what comes next. I was called for a winter season and as new life begins to appear, I hope to hear good stories of the things that emerge. </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>I think it’s going to rain today - Nina Simone</i></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="304" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kSYgoC_Dgw4" width="440" youtube-src-id="kSYgoC_Dgw4"></iframe></div><br /><i><br /></i></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">This is a beautiful song and I love to sing and play it. I first sunk into its beauty when I heard a version of it on Gilmore Girls (my go to series if life needs soothing). It is played at a particularly sad part of the story when Lorelei and Rory stop talking as Rory moves into her Grandparents pool house. </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">I listened to this a lot when I got back from sabbatical and picked up work again. The weight of the work we do as a church was getting heavier and the world seemed more broken and it was affecting each one of us, yet in amongst all of that there was goodness and hope and compassion and deep deep love. It’s a song that makes me feel sad but it also soothes me. It speaks about how when things are shattered, when people are shattered, that there is something about the human heart that shines despite. That’s the light and hope of Jesus shining through. Where I see the light shine within and be reflected in the shattered and distorted view in unexpected ways, there I see the goodness of God. </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>Firm Foundation - Cody Carnes</i></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="320" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/x9ndiD0_qNk" width="474" youtube-src-id="x9ndiD0_qNk"></iframe></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div>This is my current earworm. I’ve been listening to it over and over since I first sang it at ministers conference a couple of weeks ago. It tells the story of how God has kept me upright, my life motto of finding joy despite, of finding peace that nobody understands. It even tells the story of the rain and the wind that have not just been a metaphor as we have suffered from far too many leaks and cracks in the manse (don't worry it has all been or is being sorted). It reminds me that when I’ve got my feet in the right place, that thriving, whatever is going on around, is possible. A song for now, I think, then we’ll see what comes next. </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">And the other songs? They tell the stories of how God continues to be good and faithful, of the people around me who have helped me stand when my legs have been wobbly and of the hope that I have that continues to remind me that the way things are are not the way they have to be...... </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">The Father's Song - I played this to the online congregation in our first lockdown service; The Blessing, that blessed so many of us during the first weeks of lockdown; In this heart that expressed so much of what I was feeling during the November lockdown in 2020; Hold On, as I held on with the help of my choir we sang this in a socially distanced group of six in the park in the dark in one of those surreal moments only the pandemic can explain; I'll fight, reminding me I can be so much with the support of others; Don't forget to Breathe, a constant reminder; Beautiful Things, that I wrote about <a href="http://clairenfish.blogspot.com/2022/05/landslides.html">here</a>; Oh Holy Night, the theme of a weary Christmas at the end of a bonkers couple of months; The Goodness of God, because he is, and when it comes down to it, He is the firm ground on which I stand. </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">What’s your go to song of the moment? </span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><br /></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><span class="text Zeph-3-17" id="en-NIV-22838" style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: black; position: relative;">The <span class="small-caps" style="font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-caps: small-caps; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant: small-caps;">Lord</span> your God is with you,</span><br style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: black;" /><span class="indent-1" style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: black;"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Zeph-3-17" style="position: relative;">the Mighty Warrior who saves.<br /><span class="text Zeph-3-17" style="position: relative;">He will take great delight in you;</span><br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Zeph-3-17" style="position: relative;">in his love he will no longer rebuke you,<br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Zeph-3-17" style="position: relative;">but will rejoice over you with singing. </span></span></span></span></span></span><br /></span></div><div class="ujudUb" jsname="U8S5sf" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; caret-color: rgb(32, 33, 36); color: #202124; margin-bottom: 12px; text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="indent-1" style="caret-color: rgb(0, 0, 0); color: black;"><span class="text Zeph-3-17" style="position: relative;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Zephaniah 3:17</span></span></span></div><br class="Apple-interchange-newline" style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; text-size-adjust: auto;" />Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-24655918303844733992023-02-11T12:33:00.002+00:002023-02-11T16:39:50.807+00:00Fault in the Shadows<p><i></i></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiawUjxRnAeiAvoN1AKMoLUQFBwHRw8L1aGWQcXNFfrr_B-AfjaZ0HXrO_06M_uvqONs1UFhucqMinAX8UFM469nUT0IFoZVhRZkDN9vbesf5g1dVO-YbsVF5qWUwXOH7jwIOj3El1zS0t7219GYnA0QuExzokreXQjZdO4puA0Wb3tNMiucPFdMml/s900/ForTKhDXsBsj--7.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="754" data-original-width="900" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiawUjxRnAeiAvoN1AKMoLUQFBwHRw8L1aGWQcXNFfrr_B-AfjaZ0HXrO_06M_uvqONs1UFhucqMinAX8UFM469nUT0IFoZVhRZkDN9vbesf5g1dVO-YbsVF5qWUwXOH7jwIOj3El1zS0t7219GYnA0QuExzokreXQjZdO4puA0Wb3tNMiucPFdMml/s320/ForTKhDXsBsj--7.jpg" width="320" /></a></i></div><i><br /> <span style="font-family: verdana;">"Did living under the shadow of his high achieving wife lead to unthinkable tragedy? Details emerge of the tensions behind the picture perfect lives of the Epsom College head and her husband who "killed her and their daughter before turning the gun on herself" </span></i><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">This is a Daily Mail headline this morning (11th Feb 2023). The reporter is commenting on the murder of Emma Pattison, head of Epsom College and daughter, Lettie, committed by her husband, George Pattison, who then went on to kill himself. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">This story has made the headlines, unlike other stories of women who have been murdered by their partners, because of the position that Emma Pattison held at Epsom College. She was a woman with a high profile. A woman who has achieved a lot in life. A woman who was a leader and an example to others. A woman who was trying to be all she could be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And because of that, journalists have decided that it is time to discuss whether she brought it upon herself because of her ambition and status. I have (reluctantly) read the article and other accompanying articles, and it gets worse than the headlines. I really hate the Daily Mail, but I know so many who read it.... so sometimes, like today, I dig in a little - just to see (a little disclaimer there). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So... how do we respond to this? What do we do with this? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">At the moment I'm fuming, to be honest, in the knowledge that I know people who are full of love who choose to read this paper with all of this stuff. I am fuming knowing that this isn't just what came to the front of this one journalist's mind, but is a rhetoric that has run throughout history and is something that runs in all spheres of life, including the church. It is a rhetoric based on power struggles nobody asked to have and it is a symptom of our fallen world, where in Genesis 3 we see the created partnership of human beings distorted, as the first people turned away from God, and power and control came into play. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But what can we do with all of this? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We can get angry, yes. We can call it out.... but there are other things we can do too, and o</span><span style="font-family: verdana;">ne thing we can do is keep reminding women that it is not their fault....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So here's the reminder.... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's not about what you wear, or what you have done or what you have said. It is not about what you do for a job or your level of knowledge on the things you have studied. It is not about whether you returned that call when you couldn't or weren't answering the text when you were talking with your friends. It is not about whether you have money or are relying on the provision of others. It is not about whether you are struggling with health or caring for someone who can't. It is not about whether you remembered to pick up shopping today or had the tea cooked at exactly the right time. It is not because you walk home alone or like to go running. It is not because you disagreed or had an opinion. It is not because you pick your teeth or play your music too loud. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It is not your fault. It's not you. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Our God is a God of life and not death, of flourishing and not diminishing.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Our God created human beings with potential and gifting, and we glorify him when we work to thrive in the fields he has called us to.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Don't let the blame game, the power games, hold you back from being all you can be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It is not your fault. It's not you. </span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-38428628873417831212023-01-17T10:17:00.004+00:002023-01-17T13:38:52.191+00:00Crumbly<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-vv3HKgATBWDrezP_PDhW246zO4gA8wSI-DBuxFu7WiAeForZ6Z49JJPioW7p8YcQBaTcnDWagHlx82BlDkJsQ0axjJdHCkKUHM20w_GsneePm5FZ44VNXlPMw3f2iAR6E8sL1bJk1Ep0bfHbtFiaNmyqRi4ItlivU-9-rbpl_9PXx3OQEyCZRxvC/s2048/cheery%20cake.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2002" data-original-width="2048" height="313" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-vv3HKgATBWDrezP_PDhW246zO4gA8wSI-DBuxFu7WiAeForZ6Z49JJPioW7p8YcQBaTcnDWagHlx82BlDkJsQ0axjJdHCkKUHM20w_GsneePm5FZ44VNXlPMw3f2iAR6E8sL1bJk1Ep0bfHbtFiaNmyqRi4ItlivU-9-rbpl_9PXx3OQEyCZRxvC/s320/cheery%20cake.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />I made a cake late yesterday afternoon. Cherry and Almond Cake. It's a precarious cake to make because the almonds don't hold together as well as the flour and you bake it in a bundt tin (one with a hole in the middle) so getting it out of the tin is always a fun challenge because of its grooves and nooks and crannies and inevitably a bit gets stuck to the tin. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Yesterday about an eighth of it got stuck in the tin. It sat there taunting me unwilling to get out of its comfortable bed of warmth to begin the process of cooling. I banged the tin, but in the end had to get it out with a palette knife, which caused it to fly out and land in a pile of pieces. I'm not a great presenter of cakes, but having an eighth of the cake in pieces adds extra challenge. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But, the thing is, whilst the cake is still warm it's still cooking a little bit, and there is a window where it can be rescued by the scientific method of holding it together. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So I rebuilt the cake, like a drystone wall, putting together each bit in the hole that was probably made for it, but possibly not, gently pushing it together to make a whole cake again. I held it for a while, firmly but gently so as not to make it a squashed cake. I put the tin back on top for a short while to let the heat flow round and in the cracks and crevices, bringing healing to the broken sponge. It stood together, ready to be iced and I left it to cool. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And when I came back to ice it? The cake stood firm, the evidence it had fallen apart only there in the slightly patch work section where the drywall building told the story of the disaster that wasn't meant to be. I covered it with icing to help it firm up its purpose as one cake and left it to establish its looks to displayed in our community cafe this morning. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've just had a piece (you have to test it) of the most broken part, and, yes, it stood strong together. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Sometimes when you are broken, like the cake, you just need to be held for a while, and then you will become, scars and all, whole again. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Where the promises of life are not all they are cracked up to be, where the shape you hoped to become falls apart when you try and extract yourself from the mould you hoped would keep you together, where part of you wants to stay in the warm tin, where it's all a bit crumbly.... sometimes you just need to be held. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">----------------------------------</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Jesus said this:</span></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" Matthew 11:28</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Come to me all you who feel like you are falling apart and I will help you put yourself back together</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Come to me all you who are feeling like you are not quite right and I'll help you find your place</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Come to me all you who are scared of leaving the comfort of where you are and I will help you face what comes next</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;">Come to me all you who are broken and I will make you whole. </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-25692264637494220072022-08-27T16:42:00.006+01:002022-08-27T21:01:40.842+01:00Small Hands<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7nXNXJG0I9aNTrEK8V-An9DSLQ1XZj8-yT6yu6lPu4hSWX_70RdF2imKCAwRQ3OVKuwTwdcBhyxwVA9qmjFm9DYswNf1ExonwaEyQnqNpCe0canHRwYfUjwxrNVtepm55ZuqcjrwAqVg2yaEv3sKIMZqLyVpwLs4AMVzqEhBAd3EI2xmlqdVFRhNl/s1183/33b1f258-2036-446e-bf8e-38cb5202a074.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="841" data-original-width="1183" height="227" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7nXNXJG0I9aNTrEK8V-An9DSLQ1XZj8-yT6yu6lPu4hSWX_70RdF2imKCAwRQ3OVKuwTwdcBhyxwVA9qmjFm9DYswNf1ExonwaEyQnqNpCe0canHRwYfUjwxrNVtepm55ZuqcjrwAqVg2yaEv3sKIMZqLyVpwLs4AMVzqEhBAd3EI2xmlqdVFRhNl/s320/33b1f258-2036-446e-bf8e-38cb5202a074.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />I have small hands. It has always been so. They're hands inherited from the small hand side of the family. Dainty, not too stubby, one of my favourite bits of me. I drew my hands a few months ago - it was a reflective exercise in noticing. They didn't come out bad really, in all their lines and strategically placed moles that have always helped me distinguish my left from my right. They may be small, but they stretch far - that's playing the piano for you - they stretch almost to an octave and two notes, and so long as I don't play too long, I can sustain that position where the shape of my hands becomes more like a line for a while. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have small hands. It has always been so. I can fit them inside a pringles tube and reach the crisp nectar at the bottom without having to break them as they pour out. Their smallness means I can't carry much, and so when you're sharing out sweets I inevitably miss out. I drop things - with fingers closed the surface area is not large enough to carry and with fingers open the things fall quickly through the gaps as my hands stretch wider and turn into that octave and nearly two notes reaching line. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have small hands. It has always been so. And with the fear inducing news my hands feel even smaller. How can I carry the weight alongside and for those who I love and serve when right now it feels heavy, and the predictions declare "it's going to get heavier still, in fact, so heavy, that nobody's hands will be able to carry it"?</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We have small hands. It has always been so. But thankfully there is one who has bigger, and His hands are sitting underneath our own, so close that sometimes they are indistinguishable from our own. And His hands hold yours and catch you before you fall. His hands take the weight of the crisis that is coming and promise to help carry the load you're carrying through. His hands are big enough to both stretch beyond the octave and to hold everything you carry easily, and everything that makes you say 'no more'. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We cannot know for sure how the next wallop in the cost of living crisis will hit us, and some will wonder if they can take anymore. It's not just going to disappear even if we try and bury our heads in the sand.... this we do know, though, his hands - they're big enough to hold it all. Examine them, see your name written on them, and see how He holds yours.... and then see how you might be the one to hold your hands in the same way under another's as they also face what is ahead. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"So do not fear, for I am with you, do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" - Isaiah 41:10</i></span></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-56615869214076811832022-07-28T12:46:00.005+01:002022-07-28T12:48:49.482+01:00Finding the Perfect Blend (the final week of Neighbours)<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGhB4-s-TANLm2QY7EXvZNswQBYDVuMN5LTLnke8Mww6UMRHTdr6aT8o8Ezq9OqozYWZRxdofzP_hzGYpVl3z8dNPfoEeddqbe4gunyPR3tpIu08hWxHcYVK0iTghQfCIWIeHaFZSiPJrx_Akgyc-BvEEjzWevi4scH0DuVriLUZ0sAJzisGgp39IZ/s1024/3118213802_81a6ac363d_b.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="768" data-original-width="1024" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgGhB4-s-TANLm2QY7EXvZNswQBYDVuMN5LTLnke8Mww6UMRHTdr6aT8o8Ezq9OqozYWZRxdofzP_hzGYpVl3z8dNPfoEeddqbe4gunyPR3tpIu08hWxHcYVK0iTghQfCIWIeHaFZSiPJrx_Akgyc-BvEEjzWevi4scH0DuVriLUZ0sAJzisGgp39IZ/s320/3118213802_81a6ac363d_b.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />It's a sad week this week. Not only is it the last week of my sabbatical, but it's the end of 37 years of Neighbours. A soap that is almost as old as me, it's been part of my life since I was smaller and has been a key part of my routine in ministry (for someone who works better in the morning but is not a morning person, 1.45pm is a good time for lunch).</span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Neighbours has everything you need in a soap - lots of different types of people, humour and tragedy, characters who could be your neighbours or your friends, a slight surrealism that reminds you occasionally that it is not actually real life (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tlRR4SEjPPc">Bouncer's Dream</a> is as surreal as some of mine) and an intricate weaving of storylines that would make you, on one hand, wonder if you want to ever live on Ramsay Street but on the other hand, be drawn in and buy one of the houses now for sale. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The Neighbours theme music was one of the first things I remember enjoying playing on my recorder at school. It's simplicity lends itself to an infant playing a recorder, and you can't go <i>that </i>wrong. It tells a perfect and simple story of how if you can get the right group of neighbours together, the right blend of neighbours, the right blend of people in your community, then you might become friends. That theme tune has brought itself to life in the last few weeks as old cast members have returned and they have told their story of their best bits of Ramsay Street. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The stories are of laughter and joy, of the characters that they lived alongside, of those that they miss and of those with whom relationships have broken. They tell the stories of coming to a peaceful place even though they have gone through difficult times, and how Ramsay Street will always be their home, not because of the location, but because of the people who are there. Alongside this, life continues, and brokenness still happens, people still change, people still argue, and the painful past bites when memories arise. Their lives are intertwined, in their now stories, in their past stories and in stories of connections they didn't know they had. The one thing that keeps them together is their collective story, even though they may have only been part of that story for a short while, their story matters. The perfect blend in the theme song is not about it all being pretty, but about the people who make up the story, it's a blend being changed and renewed time and time again. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Neighbours tells the story of a community searching for and finding home. It's a story of how we need each other, that life cannot be lived in isolation, however much easier that might seem. Alone time is lovely, but we need togetherness to become fully alive. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I'm reading a book at the moment called <a href="https://www.brfonline.org.uk/products/seven-sacred-spaces-portals-to-deeper-community-life-in-christ">Seven Sacred Spaces</a>. The author, George Lings, identifies the elements of Christian communities, which, with the right blend enable 'a richer expression of discipleship, mission and community'. One of these spaces is 'Cloister' - basically the corridors and the spaces of the monastery where nothing specific is usually planned to happen, but community encounters naturally occur. It's in these places that a lot of the relationship building and conversation happens. These are the joining places - the bits where dots are joined together and we can begin to make sense of the world. Giving time to make sure that encounter can happen in the cloister - that the community can just hang out together is key to making the community healthy.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I think that's what makes Neighbours what it is - it's not a series of rushing from one thing to another with the camera swinging between organised events (although they happen and are important) - it's a story full of encounters in the cloister spaces - Harold's Cafe, The Waterhole, the archway outside of Karl and Susan's, the strange little room in Toadie's house, at doorways and on walkways, by the swimming pool..... Those moments are significant in making the theme tune's perfect blend. If you bump into someone and stop to talk, even if only for a few seconds, you remind them that they matter, that they belong, and that they are welcome here..... and when someone feels at home, they let their barriers down and begin to grow. In Neighbours maybe feeling at home happens quickly, not just because it's a fictional soap, but because the joining places are there, and in those joining places they learn to become the perfect blend. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">If we put spaces in place for chance encounters and semi-planned bumping into one another, it helps us learn to be community better and more beautifully. Lings ends the chapter on Cloister with this: </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"<i>Cloister has a socially challenging function. I suggest it speeds up the formation of honest community. Love, humility, generosity of spirit, good listening and mutual learning, reconciliation across genuine differences - wow, that would be a church community I'd be privileged to join! Cloister puts right in your face the need to grow in all these virtues and to fight the particular temptations to grumbling, bad-mouthing, sheer hatred, judgementalism and pride that can occur when we are with others"</i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Ramsay Street is not the perfect place to be, and neither are the places, the churches, the worshipping communities, in which we find home and space to grow in Jesus.... but, life amongst others, searching for Christ's blend in amongst the challenges of interacting with other human beings - it's a better, more fulfilling and more fruitful place to be than trying to walk the journey alone. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="319" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/vtbtWM_sDdg" width="524" youtube-src-id="vtbtWM_sDdg"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-83601285063844302612022-07-17T18:41:00.002+01:002022-07-17T18:47:45.850+01:00Peace Shoes<p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Some time ago, in the near distant past, not here, but there, I was let down - betrayed perhaps - the ground had shifted underneath my feet and the now, it felt rocky and uncertain. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I asked God how I was going to keep walking whilst I was hurting and unsure of what the consequences would be, and as I was reading, he distinctly led me to Ephesians 6 and the armour of God. Put on the shoes of the Gospel of Peace, he said. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It was in that moment that I realised the impact of those shoes. The language of the armour of God suggests war, but when the shoes you put on your feet are ones of peace its a different kind of endeavour that you are preparing for. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Imagine walking and leaving physical footprints of peace. If you're wearing peace shoes, surely that's what you do? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In my disappointment, frustration and anger, the action of putting those shoes on turned my angry stomp into a walk where I discovered wholeness again. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">This is the Jesus way. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnm4b5vEcsvdY0wNL9JM-4bG0xXfhdZDuuSqWN1LzcfsGYqsaWT47aBbH_i4OOMN12xBG_J4FZ86LqZT7fvGHwLq69V4JPoEojsZK9epPG4sdhGEb2CpMOpfhWECLoXgcNc4czzg6pN0KtNhRH8dulv8HPhFTSDg6XW5PRYKwUh7U6RZJ5kcFu2327/s1280/shoes-4059754_1280.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="853" data-original-width="1280" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnm4b5vEcsvdY0wNL9JM-4bG0xXfhdZDuuSqWN1LzcfsGYqsaWT47aBbH_i4OOMN12xBG_J4FZ86LqZT7fvGHwLq69V4JPoEojsZK9epPG4sdhGEb2CpMOpfhWECLoXgcNc4czzg6pN0KtNhRH8dulv8HPhFTSDg6XW5PRYKwUh7U6RZJ5kcFu2327/s320/shoes-4059754_1280.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span><p></p><p><b style="font-family: verdana;">A Blessing for your Shoes</b></p><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>May your shoes, in your walking, create footprints of peace.</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>May their imprints speak gently of the one who restores. </i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><i><br /></i></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>As you stomp out your anger, may they find softer ground</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>As you walk off your frustration, may they help you find wholeness</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>As you walk without direction, may they take you to a safe place. </i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>As you trip over the changing landscape, may they help you find your feet</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>And as you walk on beyond, may your footprints bring peace</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>to the people and the places you encounter on your way</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: xx-small;"><i>image from </i></span><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: xx-small;"><i>https://pixabay.com/photos/shoes-used-worn-cloth-shoes-4059754/</i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: xx-small;"><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"> </span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-67325081485639242192022-07-15T17:50:00.003+01:002022-07-15T17:56:16.362+01:00Coming Home<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />I just looked in my diary and realised I came home a week earlier than I meant to. How did that happen? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I think that maybe I was ready. I think my internal diary shouted over my written diary and told me that home was where I needed to be. I considered avoiding the now red alert furnace in the south. I've loved being able to spend time with family and friends and to feel safe and free to be exactly who I am. I have spent a lot of time over the last two and a half months processing and considering and thinking and waiting and reading and talking...... and being deeply loved. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've remembered how to laugh again, just laugh and not stop (that can be a problem, but it's a good problem!) and how good laughter is for us. I saw a photo of some of our church leaders in our new community kitchen garden (which is very exciting) and they were laughing and I wanted to be there to laugh with them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May there be so much more laughter. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've learnt how to completely rest and switch off. One of the best feelings at the beginning of my sabbatical was sitting down in my little retreat sanctuary and realising I had no demands on me. I could just be. I've struggled with retreating in the past because I haven't found that space, but now I've found it, I am hoping when I go through a season of demand, it won't be too hard to find again. I spent a lot of last week just being, sitting, reading, watching fish, and it was glorious. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May we all find the time and space to simply be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been surrounded by people who know me well and have reminded me of who I am. </span><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been reminded many times that I am me and nobody else. I am the person who God created me to be. The minister that God calls me to be. I lead from who I am not who anybody thinks I am or expects me to be, and its in doing that I can be all I need to be. God chose me because he loves me and knows what is best for me. I am enough, and don't need to be something I am not. God chooses you because he loves you and he knows you better than even you do - he knows what he is doing. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May we all know that we are enough. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been climbing hills, both in real life (those cliffs on the south west path were steeper than I expected) and in my thinking. Someone said to me that the more you tackle the difficult hills, the quicker the recovery time afterwards and I found that to be true. I've had some difficult stuff to process, but I think I'm nearly there. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May we all have the courage to face the hills. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've sat and asked myself the taxing questions and have had others do that for me. I've spent time with those who can pull even the most entangled stuff out of me and make it into something beautiful, bringing insight and wisdom so simply and straightforwardly into things I've not quite understood. I've discovered more of the kind of minister God is growing me to be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May we all be blessed with those who will help us untangle ourselves.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've known more of what I've always known, that God loves me with an everlasting love. If I can learn to love even a smidgen of how he loves, I'll be getting something right. I've been reminded to seek God's Kingdom first and that's where I will learn how to love more deeply.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">May we all know God's everlasting love.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been reminded that home is where I am called, it's where I feel pulled to, and whilst for a while I've been pulled away, I wonder if now, as my internal diary shouts louder than the ink of the pen with which I'd written my schedule down the direction of the pull has found its centre again. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Sometimes you just know, you know.... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTFMoZ2V_M-xjR8uLRkh7W3VYk7C8K-ddt8daSxqlt9WV2R_ZIDD-3uMQpPCZ3v3VNKXaO4tVYSiz_0NipPEQyMXvXXbRnlR7wPhTECBTRrq2t2rEU0vTLADsHqSdOELJnoz5GT1lZjVm9M6jAEuv0PNOWIVuc2lGn1OKBZcNr6eyITzmHhUYWEgCE/s2048/293556858_10158379492961650_4078743847071828422_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1538" data-original-width="2048" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhTFMoZ2V_M-xjR8uLRkh7W3VYk7C8K-ddt8daSxqlt9WV2R_ZIDD-3uMQpPCZ3v3VNKXaO4tVYSiz_0NipPEQyMXvXXbRnlR7wPhTECBTRrq2t2rEU0vTLADsHqSdOELJnoz5GT1lZjVm9M6jAEuv0PNOWIVuc2lGn1OKBZcNr6eyITzmHhUYWEgCE/s320/293556858_10158379492961650_4078743847071828422_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span><p></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Psalm 126 (The Message)</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>It seemed like a dream, too good to be true, when God returned Zion's exiles. We laughed, we sang, we couldn't believe our good fortune. We were the talk of the nations - "God was wonderful to them!". God </i>was <i>wonderful to us; we are one happy people. </i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>And now, God, do it again - bring rains to our drought-stricken lives. So those who planted their crops in despair will shout "Yes!" at the harvest, so those who went off with heavy hearts will come home laughing, with armloads of blessing"</i></span><span face="system-ui, -apple-system, "Segoe UI", Roboto, Ubuntu, Cantarell, "Noto Sans", sans-serif, Arial" style="background-color: white; font-weight: 700;"> </span></p><div class="poetry top-1" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, "Segoe UI", Roboto, Ubuntu, Cantarell, "Noto Sans", sans-serif, Arial; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; margin-top: 1em; min-width: 0px; padding-left: 2.6em; position: relative;"><p class="line" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 2.4rem; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-width: 0px;"><span class="text Ps-126-4-Ps-126-6" id="en-MSG-6606" style="position: relative;"><br /></span></p></div>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-49110030655266134372022-07-07T20:04:00.004+01:002022-07-07T20:06:38.640+01:00Consider the Wildflowers<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4U6Frc2P22VqZiz6DHlaJ8Nn6C-xToXECOxuHQy2kdt7u46S7X4lJB7NZqQET5iv-B5CP5dKjkQ6-pd8jiwQqKVBGQGslBUUxmWFuuuHsk9eDsveHXxal0jLn-rYpuYnzeHnP3SYU71DXz4v1Ws4JyK63uekA6ROCXVQK05BluZ4NjQNF_h15yIFx/s1440/290989997_10158367295896650_6926655260354435786_n.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1440" data-original-width="1440" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4U6Frc2P22VqZiz6DHlaJ8Nn6C-xToXECOxuHQy2kdt7u46S7X4lJB7NZqQET5iv-B5CP5dKjkQ6-pd8jiwQqKVBGQGslBUUxmWFuuuHsk9eDsveHXxal0jLn-rYpuYnzeHnP3SYU71DXz4v1Ws4JyK63uekA6ROCXVQK05BluZ4NjQNF_h15yIFx/s320/290989997_10158367295896650_6926655260354435786_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana;">Earlier this week I spent some time in Southwell, and wandered around the Minster Gardens. The gardens are beautiful and time and care has been put into making it a good experience to visit with different things to look at and explore and the most beautiful array of flowers. Towards the edge of the garden is a circle made up of wild flowers - you can walk down the middle of it where a circular bench is placed. Sitting on that bench you are surrounded by all the colour and activity that comes in what, I suppose, you might describe as a meadow of wild flowers. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There were poppies and cornflowers and daisies and pink flowers and yellow flowers and bees buzzing and the sounds of birds in the trees around. It's the kind of place where being still is the only option and it soothes the soul. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I was sat there I was thinking about the verses in Matthew 6:25-34 that remind us not to be worried - like the birds who get on with the day as it is and the flowers that look beautiful and just grow like that. I'd had a dream the night before which had shaken me a bit and I'd woken up a little anxious - I was reminded of one of my daily readings which had included these verses, and as I looked at the flowers I wondered how considering them might actually help. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Life over the last few years has felt like a London public transport journey - the kind where the times all match up and you step from tram to train to tube without pausing for a breath. The uncertainties over what's ahead, over the changes in government, over the cost of living, over how much to use the car, over what is coming next..... they have been never ending..... and at times it has been difficult to imagine a time when the movement might stop. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Reflecting on those verses as I thought about the wildflowers I stopped at the place where the wildflowers stop. We so often read those verses as a whole, which is where they belong, attaching them to an encouragement to not worry or be anxious, but perhaps sometimes we just need to stop and stare before we move on. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Consider the lilies. Consider the flowers. Consider the wild flowers. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the middle of that circle of meadow, everything felt right. That stillness, that time, just to bask in the beauty of the colours and listen to the sounds of the world simply being was a thin place where God's creation made everything well for now. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We don't need to wonder how considering the flowers might help, we just need to consider the flowers, because those flowers, in that moment, contain everything needed to mean the next words and verses can find a place to be at another time. In that moment, the song that the flowers sing is the only song we need to hear.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Consider the wild flowers - their petals, so neatly shaped and not quite but nearly uniform, their colours so vibrant, bringing diversity as they thrive alongside others so different themselves. Consider the wild flowers, so carefully made by God, intricate, resilient, delicate, full of life. Consider the wild flowers, who tell something of the effort and care God puts into you and your life. Consider the wild flowers, they have a beautiful story to tell. </span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-59877018775393757612022-07-04T11:00:00.000+01:002022-07-04T11:00:14.385+01:00Who are they to be..... ?<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqI2kbRYNJezi9_eyU6I-PZlP8Ze6XqkItBRgapr-PFOqvslnyz4inAM3_84VvvWyyq-AXtVWsrwkxHw9SYdu-1Jw6D7BfOEvKkSNqLF9gLWn2Dmaw3MK_8OaIh-TDAfnZ-wK0Z8kCit_EpXlnAURFWzSWQSjjM9pg3RZBXQ6Hvct5X55LYZJIWpgC/s2153/Unknown_person.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2153" data-original-width="1945" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqI2kbRYNJezi9_eyU6I-PZlP8Ze6XqkItBRgapr-PFOqvslnyz4inAM3_84VvvWyyq-AXtVWsrwkxHw9SYdu-1Jw6D7BfOEvKkSNqLF9gLWn2Dmaw3MK_8OaIh-TDAfnZ-wK0Z8kCit_EpXlnAURFWzSWQSjjM9pg3RZBXQ6Hvct5X55LYZJIWpgC/s320/Unknown_person.jpg" width="289" /></a></div><br />Who is this person who stands in front of you? You try and read and make sense of them as you form your reply. They disagreed with you and challenged your thoughts and ideas and have raised up all sorts of feelings inside you and you don't know whether to laugh or cry or shout or walk away. They stand in front of you sharing words that divide in a space more public than you'd have liked. <p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Who is this person who stands in front of you and irritates you to the core with their very presence? They make you angry and you know they shouldn't but they talk and exhibit an identity you cannot identify with. They make choices that go against your moral code and your shackles are up because you don't understand or tolerate. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Who is this person who stands in front of you and talks of their own lives with no interest in yours or your thoughts on what they might do. They speak in a language you don't understand and can't engage with but want you to know what they mean. They appear to hate you and choose to confront you on every little thing without letting you speak. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Who is this person who stands in front of you find really difficult to manage to love? Why do they make you feel this way and why are they the way they are? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Who is this person who stands in front of you? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">First and foremost a human, with a story, with a life of brokenness and pain. A person with tales of love and of joy, and of sorrow and of loss. A person with a voice who remembers moments where their voice was taken as someone else spoke for them without being asked. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who who might have seen something that you haven't noticed and before you shout back their presence is calling you to shift your eyes. If you look beyond your irritation there is something in this person that is good and that connects to you in surprising ways. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who has struggled coming to terms with their own identity and is hoping you might not struggle quite as much as they are as they share their story with you. They came to your space as a safe space because they had nowhere else to go. </span><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who is never really listened to and is hoping that you might be the one who hears. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who has thought carefully about their choices, who has studied and wrestled and found a settled place for themselves, and is hoping you might just sit with them for a while. Their story is far too difficult to tell and they need sanctuary in a place that feels further from home than far can be. They struggle to articulate themselves and know that it always comes out wrong (but its better than it used to be). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who doesn't know how to be loved, so your difficulties are theirs too, and you journey together. As they choose to learn how to react to and receive love, you choose to follow the rocky path of learning how to love. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's a someone, a person, a human, a life, a reflection in a mirror, a story of shadow and of light. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who reminds you that you're so caught up in the struggle that you've forgotten how to choose love. You've forgotten the love languages of listening and of patience, of kindness and of pausing, of hearing, of being, of taking down of walls. They remind us that we can choose to live in the tension of difference and forget that our opinions only matter as much as theirs.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's someone who is lovable just like you, with potential, just like you, worth listening to, just like you. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Just like you. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"So God created humankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them...... God saw all he had made, and it was very good" </i>Genesis 1:27, 31a</span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-88030148389426732392022-06-29T11:13:00.004+01:002022-06-29T11:19:30.872+01:00Down with this sort of thing<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghqs1Poz8CUXxQvrs1EkwssEAc0Hxv5q3bklUtn2TTHfn1tAb8D08Y__CBsUgBoAImzNMV0kk0CbrRD1iUDpUR38qPpGjMcAtsowseX9PFt_0PWft_aIls_jiWctRqhPUEalBj7wIT4XexU837lQ-vSwOwct6SXYD4pCwKH-gafUGdpU8sAkKbrFc3/s1024/34976963870_aaa7278ecb_b.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1024" data-original-width="1024" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghqs1Poz8CUXxQvrs1EkwssEAc0Hxv5q3bklUtn2TTHfn1tAb8D08Y__CBsUgBoAImzNMV0kk0CbrRD1iUDpUR38qPpGjMcAtsowseX9PFt_0PWft_aIls_jiWctRqhPUEalBj7wIT4XexU837lQ-vSwOwct6SXYD4pCwKH-gafUGdpU8sAkKbrFc3/s320/34976963870_aaa7278ecb_b.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />Yesterday Steve Bray, the 'Stop Brexit Man' who has spent many days outside parliament protesting against Brexit and calling for the government (and the country) to reverse the decision had his equipment ceased and he could be prosecuted under the 'Police, Crime, Sentencing and Courts Act' which was passed on Tuesday. This act introduces an offence of intentionally and recklessly causing a public nuisance. It's an attempt to try and stop the tactics of climate change protestors like Extinction Rebellion who have brought parts of London and the M25 to a standstill on a number of occasions. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Now I've seen Steve Bray protest, and yes he is noisy, I'll give you that, but he stands alongside other occasional and more regular protestors around Parliament Square, passionate about his campaign and wanting to be heard. One MP described her pleasure at his arrest and described his noisy protests as violent, but many others have stood by him, saying 'yes he is annoying, but it should be his right'. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Whatever we think about his cause and methods, the very public confiscation of his equipment and threat of persecution is disturbing, because it is a sign of what this bill could do. As humans in a free country we have a right to protest, it is enshrined in human rights law, however this bill says that if it is annoying or too noisy then it can be shut down, just like that. Carefully worded, the bill doesn't sound that bad, but many people are worried about what it might mean for our future right to protest. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As a Baptist, one of my core values is one of dissent. The Baptist Movement began under persecution - One of the founders of the General Baptists, Thomas Helwys was arrested and imprisoned because of his views and campaigning on the separation of church and state. Jesus was crucified by the religious and political powers of the day - his very existence challenging established religion and speaking of a power greater than the ruling Roman Empire. Inspired by this Baptists believe that neither the state or institutional church can dictate what to think or how to behave. Freedom is a key value and all should be able to participate in the political process. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">When voices are silenced, their ability to take part in the political process is suppressed. We are in a situation, which is not new, but is swinging in a dangerous direction, where the voices of the elite, the Oxbridge educated, those with more money and resources than they know what do with, those with connections, those subscribing to divisive ideologies and who are actively challenging a convention of human rights that has been around for decades have the loudest voices in politics. Where the volume is turned down on protest, where fear of speaking out is filtering out into the nation, these voices can only get louder, and the voices of the majority will be silenced. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Protest has had a part to play in many great movements in history and continues to do so today. Silenced voices are heard when people choose to speak up. Solidarity with and freedom for the oppressed has been found because people have protested. Trade Unions, Votes for Women, the Civil Rights Movement in the US... more recent the Black Lives Matter movement and Climate change protestors have raised new voices in ongoing justice struggles. History shows that where people rise up, authorities crack down - the Peterloo Massacre, the imprisonment of suffragettes, Selma. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We might see the attempt to silence Steve Bray as an incident that will pass by and its only one man with one agenda, but the big question is what is to come ahead, and whose voice will be silenced next. As we see our government question our fundamental human rights on protesting, we cannot help but draw parallels with the loss of human rights of those who are destined to be on the next flight to Rwanda and we've got to ask where this is going to stop. The path ahead looks murky and dangerous. Where is our voice in that? What does walking in the way of Jesus look like down this road? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Jesus said this:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight to the blind, to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favour" </i>Luke 4:18-19</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana; font-size: xx-small;">Image from https://www.flickr.com/photos/garryknight/34976963870</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-6013882691845310872022-06-21T12:15:00.004+01:002022-06-29T11:21:44.981+01:00There, There, it'll be OK (ahem)<p> <span style="font-family: verdana;">"It's going to be OK"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"Give it time" </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"You'll find a way"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"Smile, it might never happen"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"You'll get over it"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. 'Peace, peace,' they say when there is no peace" </i>Jeremiah 6:14</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">This verse came up in the Northumbria Community Daily Readings today. It's nudged me, reminded me, raised up stuff inside me, agitated me, frustrated me, made me itch (although that could be forgetting to take an antihistimine). It reminded me of the empty sentiments we often use to make people feel better - like giving them a little stroke. The McDonalds of sentiments that satisfies for a moment (I'm not saying it's not good to use these sentiments - in fact, in the moment, often it's what you need to hear and an occasional McDonalds (or fast food momentary satisfaction equivalent) can make a difference). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Last night I came across a note I'd written in the middle of a particularly difficult pandemic time when I was struggling to get out of bed each day because I didn't know what I was going to face. It reads like the prophet Jeremiah - he was really fed up with the world around him - people weren't facing up to their problems and were making some very poor decisions and his writing is full of 'we can't carry on like this, something has got to change - you've got to start making some better decisions'. We've all had times like that, I am sure, and some people live most days with the every day dread of what is going to happen next, and these softly softly sentiments don't work, because in reality, they are not going to change anything and often aren't truthful, because things will only get better when we learn how to deal with and even live with the stuff that is making us hurt and groan - it's Ok not to be OK, but we can't sit in this place forever. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On the day of one of the biggest strikes for some time - a strike that most of us, although inconvenienced, understand and support, because we're at a loss of what to do about how the cost of living crisis and an economy that is falling apart for ordinary people - it's affecting us all. We are very much aware of how empty empty sentiments are. It's like when someone tells us to calm down when there is much to be agitated about - it just makes us angrier. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So what do we do with all of this? What do we do when the phrases that are meant to make us feel better don't make us feel better anymore because we know that, at least in the near future, it's only going to get more difficult? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I think we start by acknowledging that yes it is rubbish. When I was finding stuff particularly tough, people who walked with me and said 'yes, that is a really hard thing and I'm finding it hard too' made a difference. Being honest about our feelings, being vulnerable, being open.... it all makes a difference. Times ahead, times now, they will be and are difficult. For some of us it's a long road we've already been travelling. We can't always give people answers and solutions, but sitting in the rubbish together for a short while - it makes a difference. We can't stay there forever though.... so....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We can also encourage and help people on their way and let people do that with us without taking umbrage. Someone said to me the other week - 'you know what you've got to do, you just need to it'. It was very blunt, but perhaps I needed the bluntness. We can far too often label ourselves as a person who sits in the rubbish - but, although, you can find peace in a difficult place, it's still a difficult place. Finding your way out of that difficult place to a different place with new opportunities can be too painful to face because familiar feels easy. Jeremiah reminds us that just because we say things are OK it doesn't mean that they will be - sometimes we've got to do the things we don't want to do to discover what OK really means. We all need people around us who will encourage us to do that, who are truthful about where we need to go next</span><span style="font-family: verdana;"> and will help us on our way. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We can keep pointing to what we know to be true, not the 'it'll be OK', but the 'one day it will be glorious'. Jeremiah, whilst full of doom and gloom, is full of hope. His book is full of 'but God'. God is not a God of sitting in the rubbish, he is a God of restoration. The way things are are not the way things have to be, and whilst we acknowledge that there are some seasons of life that are ridiculous, we also know that there is a path that brings a deeper peace than the 'peace peace' equivalent of a fast food fix. It's the path that takes us on the long haul road to better. It's a path that takes us from sitting in the not OK to finding more than OK. It's an ancient path that has been there from the beginning of time. It's a path marked with a cross that is a symbol of deep love and shalom in all of its brokenness as Jesus was hung on it and changed the world. It's a path marked with suffering, but full of life. When you look at Jesus and hear his teaching, you see what a good - the best - way ahead looks like and what life could become. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We can't carry on like this, we've got to start making some better decisions. Our Government has got to start making better decisions. Our communities have got to start making some better decisions. We have to start making some better decisions. Saying 'there, there' isn't going to cut it - we need to seek a peace and a healing that lasts beyond tomorrow - in words, in action, in attitude and by choosing carefully who to follow. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Jeremiah reminds us of a better way....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls" </i>Jeremiah 6:16a</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4Okl-IiVgozHNivbqEq8rlKvaY4Qs0kbvYd2pCyNxHWaJWDflTWXN68lUSQ5Wx2ZiKTznNwznOjwnzBtG7dYIEZ9-dgqVqTSZGuCos2vEnIn0788EgCVWB5JAM7bHfwYkIFlkk9lFRq18hNvJLiASFqqPNIeka0VDZAiXEdi8fmXhh8qBY6QCSZis/s1503/288453821_10158345121926650_1559721828378258728_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1503" data-original-width="1440" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi4Okl-IiVgozHNivbqEq8rlKvaY4Qs0kbvYd2pCyNxHWaJWDflTWXN68lUSQ5Wx2ZiKTznNwznOjwnzBtG7dYIEZ9-dgqVqTSZGuCos2vEnIn0788EgCVWB5JAM7bHfwYkIFlkk9lFRq18hNvJLiASFqqPNIeka0VDZAiXEdi8fmXhh8qBY6QCSZis/w384-h400/288453821_10158345121926650_1559721828378258728_n.jpg" width="384" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span><p></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-52396527725988300242022-06-14T10:51:00.001+01:002022-06-14T10:51:34.602+01:00The frames through which we see<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbwdBESZO7uwAlRAL5PWO4qXoRa_cP0GfweCzkRRKQY0EfBfjY7dixo2FZokenowXFMCQ7SNsoVy6PChUIX9zdUlIV4ThnMhHvwAkSZ-9PvI8hIhT14pRaEYGp_QOltNUK6nm_98abHHMDpbxyqfYxIfd9n3AE9l5na8FpWw90xfMt0qLDtxacjJG1/s1473/frame.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1473" data-original-width="1440" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbwdBESZO7uwAlRAL5PWO4qXoRa_cP0GfweCzkRRKQY0EfBfjY7dixo2FZokenowXFMCQ7SNsoVy6PChUIX9zdUlIV4ThnMhHvwAkSZ-9PvI8hIhT14pRaEYGp_QOltNUK6nm_98abHHMDpbxyqfYxIfd9n3AE9l5na8FpWw90xfMt0qLDtxacjJG1/s320/frame.jpg" width="313" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;">When you look in the mirror what do you see? Do you see what other people see? Are you the same but backwards? When you take a selfie is it the story of everything you are? </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Probably not, because when you look in the mirror or take a selfie you frame it with everything you already think about yourself. The frame contains the words that stand out from what other people have told you in glowing letters. It contains both the words that have made you secure in your identity and the words that make you doubt who you are. The labels hang off the hooks you've put in the frame - successful, failing, beautiful, ugly, identified by your job, your relationship status, your emotions that day. The frame is self made with input from those around you and the marks it contains affect what you see. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I am quite enjoying taking photos from inside things, from beside things and through things, framing the way the object sees. It changes what you see, helping you to notice different spaces and shapes - shadows and edges that otherwise would not be there. By watching through a frame, it limits what you can see and it affects the way you see the objects that are in focus. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We can choose to frame anything - not through a hole in a fence but through our thoughts and ideas - and we can shift that frame as we see fit - get (in our opinion) the best or worst angle, showing the view in all its glory, or in all its lacking. Journalists do this all the time - the framing of good and bad people and politics is all relative to the writer's own choice of positioning. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">When we frame others through the lens of our own ideas and experience, it changes the way we behave towards them and treat them. If we see someone as good or the same as us, we shift our frames to a place that remind us to listen to their story. What they say and do influences how we react. If we see someone as bad, in the same way, we shift our frames to a place that reminds us to be hostile or to walk away. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who might have rubbed you up on the wrong way once is forever someone to be cautious of. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who challenged you once on something you did is always someone whose behaviour you'll watch - just wait until they put a step wrong. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who has a different view point to you is always, in your frame, up for an argument. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person from a different political party to you is always wrong, because that's what the frame says. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who dresses or looks funny is to be avoided just in case you become like them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who has a different social status to you is someone to be helped but not someone who can help you. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person you disagree with will be forever wrong, your frame only contains your right interpretation.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who you are speaking for doesn't need to speak because you are more articulate than they are. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person who travelled across the sea in a dinghy is not a person like you and me, let us send them back across the sea, or fly them to a country they do not know and do not want to go to.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The person in the mirror who struggles to find their way. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">How about if we consciously shift our frames? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">How about we shift our frames from a place of fear and control to a place of embrace? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">How about we shift our frames to see people as human first - made in the image of God, with beauty and potential for good. How about we see that people have the ability to change, surprise, bring joy.... be loved. How about we see possibilities rather than problem first, love rather than hatred, cooperation instead of animosity, promise instead of threat, blessing instead of condemnation....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Before our frame is fixed in a place of judgment, let us listen, let us wait, let us pause and take time to breathe. There is far more to who is in front of us than the labels we use to position the frame through which we see. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">A prayer based on Psalm 139:23-24..... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"Search me oh God and know my heart (help me to see people as you do); test me and know my anxious thoughts (show me where my frame needs shifting). See if there is any offensive way in me (help me to not be so rigid that I don't see people's potential), and lead me in the way everlasting (with a community full of human beauty that includes those that my own prejudices and ideas try to cut out of the frame)." </i></span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /></i></span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-62055795872661984472022-06-10T15:46:00.003+01:002022-06-10T16:10:24.212+01:00I don't want to do that<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWmixA2RhXHdLoaXapZZFCZHqUrXCNHIOn-_e_4F966iV1U7ENMxHkN-Ay6N1GT7XeFZ4e3lqciM7ksO5LTUPZXxWY4PLW9OlkfOfpnaRSMN9OM-JDe7De72S5jI_vFtmqJcJaPr0-rrqmAd5AGHb0z3UeFKnt5_CROMEgEbHO12UHf2VvjU6vlF6X/s1920/tonte-du-gazon-.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1244" data-original-width="1920" height="207" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiWmixA2RhXHdLoaXapZZFCZHqUrXCNHIOn-_e_4F966iV1U7ENMxHkN-Ay6N1GT7XeFZ4e3lqciM7ksO5LTUPZXxWY4PLW9OlkfOfpnaRSMN9OM-JDe7De72S5jI_vFtmqJcJaPr0-rrqmAd5AGHb0z3UeFKnt5_CROMEgEbHO12UHf2VvjU6vlF6X/s320/tonte-du-gazon-.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: verdana;">I hoovered my grass today. Miracles happen. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Anyone who knows me knows I am not a gardener. I struggle to keep a houseplant alive never mind make a garden look beautiful. My peace lily flowered for the first time in a number of years this summer - not through me doing anything to it apart from put in a sink of water whilst I went away to make sure it got watered. I put a spider plant (a baby from my friend's very fertile spider plant which continues to fill her shed with more and more spider plants) outside after there were annoying little mites on it and it died in the storms. It's now started to grow into two spider plants. All I did was feed it some stale bread - well put it on the table around it for the birds and something happened. I grow weeds like I am an expert weed gardener and cultivate a favoured habitat for frogs in my grass. Cutting the grass makes me itchy and has started to give me headaches leaving me with no option but to lie down for the rest of the day. I occasionally have a burst of 'I'm going to do this' and plant new plants in a bed I have cleared a couple of times and if you look between the weeds you can see there is still a hope of something happening, perhaps, one day that won't be a wilderness. I'm not even bothered about sitting in the garden - I don't know whether it's because it's a mess or I'm just not bothered - although in the south in a sunny garden (if it wasn't for the healthy growing trees) I can see the attraction. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But sometimes I know I've got to do the jobs I don't want to do. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So today I decided to at least tackle the grass. I started by pulling out the giant weeds. I nearly pulled a muscle. I think they gave me a rash. Then I decided the sensible thing to do was to strim the grass. The strimmer started smoking (it clearly doesn't know it is bad for it). I unplugged it, gave up and sat down, defeated. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Two hours later I got a second wind and got my lawnmower out and hack-hoovered the grass. It's still a mess, there were moments when my lawnmower suggested it might want to take up smoking, the vicious sounds being made by trying to chop up the hiding small plastic balls, but it's shorter, and there is hope that the garden could become something more than the wilderness it was settling into. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Sometimes you've got to do the jobs you don't want to do. Like the gardening if you are not a gardener, or the cleaning of the drains, or disposing of excessive amounts of gravy (that for some reason makes me want to hurl), or facing a difficult situation where you wonder if the process is worth the end results. It would be great if, like on a computer game, you could just press a button and everything would be perfect, but that's not the reality of life. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We need to remember that facing those jobs we don't want to do but need doing is rarely a thankless task. The impact that we make may seem small, but once it's done, even if we can't see much achieved, it makes the next part of the journey possible, even if it means mowing the grass again to make it look better along the way, even if it itches and you need to lie down for a while afterwards. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Sometimes stuff in life is hard and presents you with jobs you don't want to do or face. That conversation you've been putting off, that change you need to make, that thing you need to stop or start that you don't want to even contemplate, it's very likely that facing it and the rashes it gives you on the way will be a small step on the way to making things better. It might mean developing your spirit of perseverance and resilience or learning new ways to be tactful and graceful or facing what feels like an endurance race, but when the job is done it's done, and you can begin to move on. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Go on.... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I'm going to have a go at weeding next. </span></p><p><br /></p><p><i style="font-family: verdana;"> </i></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-27454569268436053172022-06-04T12:17:00.006+01:002022-06-04T12:20:33.511+01:00I don't know what to talk about.....<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-cPrb0tTHEY3o11y8orH_5sBkq2kuPC58vorB7_1OI0KLmI7x6C2C7tGWxKKDg8eHmxGjVxPqF1CoC00F6XLNUVYobLG2tH3WGDJug215f3EJVeo9LSpNPyRNTtKtS8v6G-vyGEdRpcyLmegGfXoVPN7ev24ucfvmcHd1AxrcMMizEb4BBr-DVYTr/s1536/Talking-pidgeons-1536x1020.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1020" data-original-width="1536" height="213" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-cPrb0tTHEY3o11y8orH_5sBkq2kuPC58vorB7_1OI0KLmI7x6C2C7tGWxKKDg8eHmxGjVxPqF1CoC00F6XLNUVYobLG2tH3WGDJug215f3EJVeo9LSpNPyRNTtKtS8v6G-vyGEdRpcyLmegGfXoVPN7ev24ucfvmcHd1AxrcMMizEb4BBr-DVYTr/s320/Talking-pidgeons-1536x1020.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /> <p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I don't know what to talk about anymore. Well I kind of do, but it's been a bit weird not having the events of the work days as a topic of conversation. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">At the beginning of my sabbatical I went to a retreat centre where they specialise in exhausted ministers or ministers in crisis. I didn't fit the second category but I did fit the first. Arriving at a place where nobody was asking anything of me apart from to take care of myself and a small bedsit type room in the middle of beautiful countryside was the best thing I could have chosen to do at the beginning of my long pause. I <i>was</i> exhausted there was no doubt - I was carrying shopping baskets under my eyes the size of trolleys and my head was all full of stuff. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The place I stayed had a few rules, but not the ones you'd expect. You were not allowed to ask people what they do or where they are from. You had to talk about other stuff instead. The rule is designed to protect those for whom any mention of work or the place they live or theology even might trigger in them the thing that they are trying to find rest from. We were encouraged, if we met anyone, to talk about books or music or what we had seen that day. I actually hardly talked to anyone whilst I was there - the person working in reception who showed me around was the main conversation I had. I actually didn't really talk to anyone for about two weeks. I found it much easier than I expected..... and I just about managed to switch off. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But, then, once I began to see people again, my thoughts and words flew to what I do and what is happening at church whilst I am not there. At the beginning of the pandemic my life was only work - there was no opportunity for other kinds of fun - and so what I was doing became completely what defined me - and it has become a lot of what I have talked about as I sought to navigate the rocky road of covid with my church family. What I have been doing has been by main topic of conversation.... and as I have walked through the last month or so I've got quieter I think, because I haven't needed the words to explain who I am. Who I am is simply me. Who I am is simply who God made me to be ..... and I'm finding I am having to rediscover that. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">God didn't make me as someone who never stops. He didn't make me as someone who wakes up every morning and worries about the day. He didn't make me as someone who is always thinking about the next thing. He didn't make me as someone who finds herself overthinking every thing she has said. He didn't make me as someone who needed to keep doing more and more to make something of myself, because he has already made something wonderful in me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Our need to define ourselves by what we do means that we miss finding our identity in who we are - and who we are - I believe - is who God made us to be. He calls us to be faithful to his call, not the competing internal and external voices of the other demands in our lives, not in the way the person up the road ministers to their church or does their job, not in the way other people think we should be.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It is when we sit closer with God we find our identity. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I rediscover my passions and joys in life (a lot of that is actually work - I am beginning to miss it, I'll have you know...) I'm rediscovering who I really am in God's eyes, and I'm finding more new and old, interesting and mundane, slightly bizarre (I've been reading about clandestine marriage in the 18th century - let me tell you all about it if you've got the time) and random things to talk about. I am learning about my passions, about what makes me tick, about how to find joy in the every day and how to appreciate the world around me better. I'm learning how to chat to God about life and not just about work again, and I'm rediscovering what it means to live fully as me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And that..... that can only be a good thing. </span></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-7101593594593749182022-05-31T20:24:00.002+01:002022-05-31T20:26:11.308+01:00What, no doughnuts? <p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjE6FAd8mBQ0Os_E02xCK3SCJwHPMp4SZfFfN9D_ZLkY-uftARlVCTSMmiS9kd8NuvNk0JWpGMqNX7V9cgqHKarq7T3vxFukbepY1cUTxcFk_FfNwZ2AIa0RaoBeASMSCUstQL_dt4dwvmdoYl8sHQMpmV1i5J3RoH04XtiWWuLh0XT5tK_IkLOnD9u/s517/2D58068E-0917-4D3E-99A6-3AF4A460ADDA.jpeg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="490" data-original-width="517" height="303" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjE6FAd8mBQ0Os_E02xCK3SCJwHPMp4SZfFfN9D_ZLkY-uftARlVCTSMmiS9kd8NuvNk0JWpGMqNX7V9cgqHKarq7T3vxFukbepY1cUTxcFk_FfNwZ2AIa0RaoBeASMSCUstQL_dt4dwvmdoYl8sHQMpmV1i5J3RoH04XtiWWuLh0XT5tK_IkLOnD9u/s320/2D58068E-0917-4D3E-99A6-3AF4A460ADDA.jpeg" width="320" /></a></div><br />Free doughnut? Yes please…. Well just sit here for a while and I’ll get you one…. <p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">There was a thing when I was at uni when you put an event on with the Christian Union (CU) that if you wanted people to come then you offered free doughnuts and people would just come. I remember a discussion about whether it was ethical to put up posters that said ‘free doughnuts’ without any sign it was a CU event - if you give someone doughnuts they’ll be happy to sit through a gospel presentation. (I’m not sure my CU did quite that kind of event - we were, I hope more up front about who we were). The whole thought of an underhand way of getting people to come and sit in a room and have beliefs thrown at them is a bit reminiscent of the timeshare ‘come to my party’ invites of the later 20th century - when you got there it turned into a ‘buy a bit of a curtain in this holiday home’ sales pitch and those who were not interested felt duped…. or being accosted by someone on New Street in Birmingham asking if I want to do a personality quiz (yes please I love quizzes) and inviting me in to a building to discover what Christian Science (or some other strange organisation) could do for me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I’d almost forgotten about all of this until I went to visit the well dressings in a Derbyshire village. Well dressings are a traditional Derbyshire thing where community groups decorate wells - the origin is in giving thanks for the water. The designs are beautifully made from petals and the way in which they are made and the thought that goes into them is fascinating. Interested in their story and how they are made I was happy to see that there was a video on in the parish church about the well dressings. We’d missed the beginning but it was good to go in half way through. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The well dressings have a clear link to Christianity, given that over the years each well dressing in each village or town is generally blessed by the local clergy and are giving thanks to God for the water and that the themes of the well dressings are very often faith based - including Bible verses and stories and Biblical themes, and so you’d expect there to be some exploration around the Christian nature of the well dressings. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But what happened was not quite what I expected and threw me a bit, and took me back to the time of free doughnuts as a mask for some sort of 3 point clever talk around what makes up doughnuts and how that relates to Jesus and all of that (doughnuts have a hole and it’s a bit like the hole in our lives). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On going through the door, we were directed to specific seats by a man in a raincoat. There were two couples in the church. The film was made during 2021 and was talking about the well-dressings pre covid and the pictures of the number of people in the village were far removed from the few people around on that day. The film finished with a little bit of a description of the faith behind the well dressings and as I thought about getting up to find the light outside again the man in the raincoat got up to the front and threw at us a full on evangelistic message with accompanying powerpoint. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And you know what? Me, a Baptist minister, felt really uncomfortable. I just wanted to escape. There was nothing in what he said I disagreed with but it was the way he said it. It felt like it all was being forced on me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On leaving we were offered (if we wanted to know more) a copy of John’s Gospel and a chat. I swiftly moved beyond the offer. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I’ve been chewing over why it made me feel so uncomfortable over the last few days. Why did I just want to escape? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I think it’s because I felt like I was manipulated into listening to something beyond what I asked for - the extra talk at the end wasn’t necessary - it took the whole thing a step beyond…. To leave it with the video and to hand out John’s gospels as we were leaving would have been just about enough. The style was old fashioned - we don’t sell time shares in that way anymore, and free doughnuts don’t come with conditions. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I don’t believe it was what Jesus did either - yes he preached, he talked, he told stories - he sent out his disciples to do the same, but they weren’t told to hide who they were until they had a captive audience, and they were told if people weren’t interested then to move on. He sat down with people at tables, he gave out invitations to follow, and accepted invitations into others spaces. He showed in word and action the good news he was and is and as he sat down with others and ate doughnuts (or something similar) he met them where they were at. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So I sit in tension - as I am pleased the message of Jesus has been shared with those who were in that church, I just wonder if it could have been done in a more gracious gentle way, and I wonder if an opportunity to love has been missed. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Free doughnut anyone? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-74056779703456037842022-05-24T12:41:00.004+01:002022-05-24T12:46:57.791+01:00Insect Encounters<p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the last week or so I've travelled north - first north of the river (I've discovered since moving to London that if you travel north of the river it's like you've travelled to a foreign land - it does take forever to get there....) and then north up the M1 to the places I feel most at home as I spend some time with my family. As I left the M25 after the forever drive round half of it and drove onto the M1 the clouds parted and the sun came out - the great escape from the south accompanied by a party in the skies. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">My two trips north have involved two encounters with insects. Not the 'get in your hair, don't bite me, stop buzzing' types of insects, but big metal insects, formed and crafted into sculptures that sit above the landscape around. I'll start with the second because I want to talk more about the first. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIBrXrbVYRj1PUc-G7unZ0Jy-1GNv6KqQDO-Jw2gAaSlgror84eIuGb58dCB9Ul5yk4Tar76TXaV-9Lyg21_7j08Z8FAhpUF_0MeSUwkQFgAlEtUGSIg3xNakLHQGfztan1pNKRuUoooUmrKqKU5naf_n4702ty7n5Yhn2VDBUoBHr9NsB3e5VUC6-/s1651/insect%20chatsworth.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1651" data-original-width="1440" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhIBrXrbVYRj1PUc-G7unZ0Jy-1GNv6KqQDO-Jw2gAaSlgror84eIuGb58dCB9Ul5yk4Tar76TXaV-9Lyg21_7j08Z8FAhpUF_0MeSUwkQFgAlEtUGSIg3xNakLHQGfztan1pNKRuUoooUmrKqKU5naf_n4702ty7n5Yhn2VDBUoBHr9NsB3e5VUC6-/s320/insect%20chatsworth.jpg" width="279" /></a></span></div><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Yesterday we went to a free exhibition at Chatsworth House (I've only ever been to the free things at Chatsworth) called </span><a href="https://www.chatsworth.org/events/burning-man/" style="font-family: verdana;" target="_blank">The Radical Horizons: Art of Burning Man at Chatsworth</a><span style="font-family: verdana;">. Large sculptures scatter the landscape outside of the main Chatsworth House - they look to celebrate creativity and collaboration as part of the exhibition which is formed of sculptures first exhibited as part of the burning man festival in the Black Rock Desert in Nevada, US. They aim to bring the unique creativity and possibility of the festival to the landscape around Chatsworth. </span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />One of the sculptures was <a href="https://www.leattrata.com/about" target="_blank">le Attracta</a> - about the embodiment of what one is attracted to. Rather than just being attracted to heat and light, the sculpture is designed so that the moths embrace fire - they become it rather than be consumed by it (I guess unlike like one of those moth catchers that fizzle them to smithereens they come alive in the fire). Unfortunately the fire part of the sculpture wasn't working or in action as we saw it yesterday, but the magnificence of the sculpture was clear and its design and concept was still fascinating without the fire. You could sit beneath the insects and participate in the attraction to the source of light and heat in the middle of the it. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The beautiful thing about these sculptures is that they just sit there in the middle of the grounds of the house. Sheep and lambs play on them, deer gather in a congregation not far away. I'd imagine at night there would be moths flying round the giant moths and the sculpture, even without the fire, might come alive. There is something in the concept of the moths becoming all that they are attracted to I quite like - the concept of being, of embracing and not being consumed - it's something I can buy into. However, when you experience a sculpture in a place like Chatsworth, there is a connection that you can never have, you can't completely embrace the story of the sculpture because of where it is - it's only here for a period of time and it it's there to visit, not to dwell. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXnnfofkpI4DNZIH8xGjrZc5dMGZaHAcRoF3Ug7jmG7ZAp6X4sLaRdNNF7nxCgO-XQJsBtfLdKeHXNGYmsWN8HxsHz046JvXmwctAmzyeMbQBhnaTS5L3c1ydlEd3-45wWzqlI5rvKgK4qcueaOSyESx1k30vgnkYAWzSNMqpFFW-mQS7Ron62JsYi/s1440/insect%20bonny%20downs.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1440" data-original-width="1440" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXnnfofkpI4DNZIH8xGjrZc5dMGZaHAcRoF3Ug7jmG7ZAp6X4sLaRdNNF7nxCgO-XQJsBtfLdKeHXNGYmsWN8HxsHz046JvXmwctAmzyeMbQBhnaTS5L3c1ydlEd3-45wWzqlI5rvKgK4qcueaOSyESx1k30vgnkYAWzSNMqpFFW-mQS7Ron62JsYi/s320/insect%20bonny%20downs.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />The sculpture I saw north of the river was in the community garden in Bonny Downs in East Ham. I went to visit <a href="https://www.bonnydownschurch.org/" target="_blank">Bonny Downs Baptist Church</a> to experience the work they are doing in that community through Bonny Downs Community Association and the way in which they embrace worship and discipleship within the intertwining of church and community - blurry church is the words we used - words I'm still chewing on, but the sculpture is part of that. I think it's a beetle..... (correct me if I'm wrong). </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">You might say that the sculpture has the same values as the one in Chatsworth. It's creative and it's beautiful. It doesn't light up (but it is near a fire pit). it's in the community garden which is part of the home of the church (where they meet for worship in the summer) and rather than set out to be simply a sculpture that points to something, it embodies all that it is made to represent. Made out of knives seized by the police in the local area, it is a physical embodiment of turning swords into ploughshares or death into life. You can hear their senior minister, Sally, tell its story <a href="https://www.baptist.org.uk/Articles/604220/Story_85_Red.aspx">here</a> (I'd recommend you watch if you have time). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The beautiful thing about this sculpture is that it just sits there in the garden as part of garden life. Insects make their homes in it. There are no sheep or lambs or deer, but there are people and soon to be chickens and every day life is around. I love that it embodies the values of all the church and community association is called to be - transformational, peace makers, bringers of hope, justice fighters, changemakers, full of abundant love..... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">What makes it so much different from the sculpture in Chatsworth is that the connection to where it is is clear. You can completely embrace the story of the sculpture - you can get up close and personal and if you are from that community or a community similar to it, you can see the embodiment of the values that burst out of it in those who came together to create it and tell its changemaking story. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">That sculpture stands in the middle of the community garden where the church meets for worship, created as part of a community project of which the church led and were part of, that declares the good news that things can be transformed. From the values of the community, from the desire for common good, the gospel of Jesus Christ, who brings life in all its fulness sings out. There is hope, things can change, there is so much more. In its prophetic action, there is an ongoing legacy that speaks love abundantly and where new beginnings become possible. The good news is here in this neighbourhood. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We're not just visitors when it comes to embodying all the values of the gospel we are attracted to - the love and the hope and the grace and the justice, the mercy, the restoration, the transformation, the new life, but those values are something in which we are all called to embody in the places that we live and in the communities to which we are called to dwell. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-size: 16px;"><i>"....they shall beat their swords into ploughshares</i></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-size: 16px;"><i>, and spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword against nation; neither shall they learn war anymore"</i> - Isaiah 2:4</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-79963138053860616572022-05-17T10:21:00.001+01:002022-05-17T10:21:24.029+01:00A blessing (of sorts)<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbNE0a9E_JdSXBnYAI2DTPFzSecM60Z6kw_JYn3z4ug7KD8LcZ2R76OFw00v-TALQ2kRR6cv4mqmdRx020jSUfkTWtJzGuIHOpPeztFidcRJZpQMRsGJU44iAqMCAwXSN8ayj-CYlk-avBTfXImpEkWWb6C4T4pdOIuVEHdi9u0oZxS4Z9c6RySNgt/s1024/dandelion%20clock.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="543" data-original-width="1024" height="170" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjbNE0a9E_JdSXBnYAI2DTPFzSecM60Z6kw_JYn3z4ug7KD8LcZ2R76OFw00v-TALQ2kRR6cv4mqmdRx020jSUfkTWtJzGuIHOpPeztFidcRJZpQMRsGJU44iAqMCAwXSN8ayj-CYlk-avBTfXImpEkWWb6C4T4pdOIuVEHdi9u0oZxS4Z9c6RySNgt/s320/dandelion%20clock.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I pause, I've been doing some deliberately slow reading, a chapter a day, read alongside a notebook and highlighter so I can pause and reflect when I need to and chew over what is said all day. It's the opposite to the way I normally read, which is fast and often, and I have wanted to read on at times but haven't. Reading this way has been (and generally is) a blessing. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The book I've just finished is "Altar in the World" by Barbara Brown Taylor. It's been a good and helpful read - much to agree with, and much to challenge. One chapter in particular really shook me and I couldn't deal with it, and I will be chewing it over for some time as I learn to find beauty in everything (see previous blogs). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Her final chapter is about blessings or benedictions. She suggests that these shouldn't just be saved for an ending of a service or a time with someone else, or for blessing a particular place or a person for a special time or moment but that saying blessings is a way of understanding and walking in the world in a different way. She suggests that as we are attentive to the world around then we might bless the things we see and it will change the way that we are able to live in the world, and it might help us to deal with some of the difficult stuff better. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Yesterday I forgot how long my staircase is and I kept running at the bottom and fell dramatically on my knees. In that moment all my anger I had been compartmentalising and hiding away came out and I then had to go and take it out on the grass and the weeds in my front garden. Perhaps in Taylor's world I might have found a calmer reaction in blessing the floor for breaking my fall. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Being a minister is so often a great privilege - you get to be with people in their celebrations and their sorrows, walking alongside them as they face whatever life faces. You are people's confidante, their wise voice, and the one they go to for blessings and prayer. Being a minister is also a great challenge - you are often the one people take out their frustrations on and who takes the responsibility for things that are going on, and whilst Jesus holds the strain, sometimes it can feel really heavy as you end up taking on the broken and the bruising in more ways than being a listening ear. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As I was thinking about what Taylor said about blessing in the context of the ups and downs of ministry, and that perhaps by blessing, it might help me deal with some of the unregulated emotions I felt as my knees hit the floor. So here it is (and you might be inspired to write your own!).</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>A Minister's Blessing</i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed is our God - God knows all things, sees all things, and holds all things together. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed is God the Father, who opens his arms for us to run into, and places us on his lap, listening to our day. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed is God the Son, whose arms stretched out on the cross embrace us with love. As he lifts us up he puts us on steadier feet than we've ever had before. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed is God the Spirit, whose arms are there even when we think they are not, giving us more than enough comfort and strength to carry on.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are those who we meet on the way....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who knock on the door and ask if everything is alright. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who run away when things aren't going their way.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who put their hands on your shoulder and remind you that there is good in the world. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who raise their voices above their own listening and silence your voice before your speaking began. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who seek to reconcile, who recognise the humanness in both you and in them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the ones who refuse to talk or listen because its your fault that everything in their life is wrong. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the flowers on the doorstep givers and blessed are the scathing message senders. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are the facebook posters who bring joy and grace at the right moment in the day and blessed are the posters who make your friends bristle with rage and leap to your defence. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are those who have walked before you - the steady ship bringers, the chaos causers, the ones that people miss more than most, and the ones that people would rather forget. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Blessed are those who are walking behind you, the next road is already being built with hope. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And blessed are those who are here in the now, brought together as family and companions on the way in which God calls. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Let us walk, let us love, let us hope, let us thrive. </span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-84848271335137512712022-05-16T14:12:00.001+01:002022-05-16T14:12:35.550+01:00Landslides<p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've been walking a bit of the south west coast path - the weather has been on the whole, glorious - maybe too hot and sunny at times for walking, but I carried on anyway..... I'm now tired, peeling a bit from unexpected sunburn, and processing all I have experienced. </span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgib6D1Hx8I-wAXzClRagCRiGCmoSdvpKxH5LXMShdJfbnw6MODVMiZCCJAbAtP8MSjpGh7q8mvijdS6q3aaYih-hJGF0B3kNFuon4l0ADxlFoiIgCQBqCfODwXJQ8iFtMUi9fXcFaEnc8rxkGDjJFGxQ23CDCe0RZB8N4n75Uomh4iNI_oASCoc_1J/s2048/south%20west%20path%20landslide.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgib6D1Hx8I-wAXzClRagCRiGCmoSdvpKxH5LXMShdJfbnw6MODVMiZCCJAbAtP8MSjpGh7q8mvijdS6q3aaYih-hJGF0B3kNFuon4l0ADxlFoiIgCQBqCfODwXJQ8iFtMUi9fXcFaEnc8rxkGDjJFGxQ23CDCe0RZB8N4n75Uomh4iNI_oASCoc_1J/w400-h300/south%20west%20path%20landslide.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></div>There was a point on the walk that I wasn't paying attention and followed the path that would have taken me down the cliff rather than across it, because, as often happens along that coast, there had been a landslide. Thankfully I realised my mistake before getting to the edge and I adjusted my walk to the path diversion, one of many path diversions on my route. </span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">When you see the change caused by the landslides, you can't help but wonder what it would have been like before. The cliffs were bigger, the plants holding on in different way, the rocks sitting in different places, the beach easier to walk along perhaps. How far was the path away from the cliff edge before the landslide and where did it go? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Regular landslides have been changing the coastline since the coastline was formed. It's part of the make up of the Jurassic coast. It's one of the reasons why those are are interested keep on finding fossils that tell the stories of millions of years ago. It's in the landslides that new and old beautiful things are found and the might and strength of the earth proclaims the might and strength of God. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And the beauty of what is left, the changes and the things that have survived the landslides, mingling together, that is what brings about a sense of wonder and awe....</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The word 'beauty' continues to sing to me as I keep on walking in this time of pause. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Over the last week or so I have been continuing to reflect on the beauty around, on the things that God has created and I've also been challenged to find beauty in the continuously changing situations we are living in and in my questioning and worn out self. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've had the song 'Beautiful Things' by Gungor in me head for most of the last week or so. He sings this:</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">All this pain</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">I wonder if I'll ever find my way</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">I wonder if my life could really change, at all</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">All this earth</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">Could all that is lost ever be found?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">Could a garden come out from this ground, at all?</span></i></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">As we consider how everything has shifted in the last few years, and how it is continuing to shift, there is no doubt that we are grieving and many of us are in pain and we have questions. When fault lines develop in the earth that holds us, that rock us and our way of being to our very core - when these fault lines cause landslides to happen that change the landscape around - it's difficult to see how we might find our way out of places that are not particularly beautiful. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">But, if the landslides of the Jurassic Coast can teach us anything is that even though there are landslides, there is still beauty to be found. We might need to wait for the ground to settle, for the new roots to be established, for the old stuff that is still there to find a new way into the light, but beauty will be found. We might need to hold the brokenness of the fault lines for a while, but what is lost and needs to be found will be discovered, and a new garden will grow. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">After the chorus, the song goes on:</span></span></p><p><i><span style="font-family: verdana;"><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">All around,</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">Hope is springing up from this old ground</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #202124;" /><span jsname="YS01Ge" style="background-color: white; color: #202124;">Out of chaos life is being found, in you</span></span></i></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">The nature of a landslide is chaos. Where mathematical models can predict how it will fall, they can't fully tell where it will end up - a slight shift, a crack opening up in a previously thought to be strong place, can change it's size and direction completely. A tiny little stone added into the mix, a bird flying too close, a tree falling on the cliffs above, a wave in the sea below hitting a branch washed up three days ago can change everything. The landslide finds its own path before it settles. Yet in that landslide, there is hope of new beauty being revealed - new beauty already being found in the path of the earth as it falls. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">There is still a huge amount to be hopeful for, even amongst the chaos around (not despite it - we mustn't forget that there is beauty <i>even in chaos - </i>that's one of the reasons the cliffs aren't strengthened to stop the landslides from happening - because the earth - God's earth - knows what it is doing, even if we do not). We see hope in the continued fight for justice, we see hope in the way that people love others, we see hope in the arrival of new life and in the voices that are like stars shining in the night sky that are punching holes in the darkness. We see hope in the plants that survived the fall, and the seeds scattered to grow in places they never belonged before. We see hope in the promise that Jesus makes when he promises life in all its fulness in John 10:10 and then in Revelation 21:5 where he says "Behold, I am making all things new". </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">The chorus and bridge say this:</span></span></p><div class="ujudUb xpdxpnd" data-mh="-1" jsname="U8S5sf" style="background-color: white; color: #202124; line-height: 1.58; margin-bottom: 12px; max-height: none; overflow: hidden; transition: max-height 0.3s ease 0s;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><span jsname="YS01Ge">Oh, you make beautiful things</span><br /><span jsname="YS01Ge">You make beautiful things out of the dust</span><br /><span jsname="YS01Ge">You make beautiful things</span><br /><span jsname="YS01Ge">You make beautiful things out of us</span></i></span></div><div class="ujudUb xpdxpnd" data-mh="-1" jsname="U8S5sf" style="background-color: white; color: #202124; line-height: 1.58; margin-bottom: 12px; max-height: none; overflow: hidden; transition: max-height 0.3s ease 0s;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><span jsname="YS01Ge">You make me new,</span><br /><span jsname="YS01Ge">You are making me new...</span></i></span></div><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">In the dust, in the settling landslide, in the faults of the earth that have diverted the path; in the waiting, in the confusion over the way ahead, in mine and your worries over our identity and place in it all.... <i>in us.... </i>there is a beauty already formed in the mind and hands of God, ready to be discovered.</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">May you know beauty both on the steady path and in the landslide</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">May you find beauty in however the earth settles</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">May you know that beauty that God sees in you</span></span></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;">--------------------------------------------------------------</span></span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-family: verdana;">I took a huge amount of photos whilst I was walking. I've put them in a video (a very rough and ready video - you'd think I'd be better at this after 2+ years of 'video maker and editor' as an unexpected part of my job description) with the song 'Beautiful Things' as the backing track, if you want to have a look at what caught my eye and hear the song, here it (apologetically) is:</span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="361" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/AN-Scs_CMj4" width="481" youtube-src-id="AN-Scs_CMj4"></iframe></div><br /><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><br /></span><p></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><span style="color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-38761277486383186872022-05-05T12:26:00.003+01:002022-05-05T12:39:49.300+01:00No...... no cows.....<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrXTS0Th6FYAh4JZLrHlnmYd8wyXmJEAS8xCzmfP76hIr3-4CnFIOcY4edaOQANMkJtjVQNl6MPttQhmLQBNNaJIpAkycBvAF9LtjpKfGXwFXuvAVVejURMLTP_UlbO-Jr_OaLhTA-hYBdjma2pfGMSYqclP8rZpDdT_kJzO7XbnQrWY0fIAFKPwj3/s1280/thumbnail_IMG_9164.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1280" data-original-width="960" height="413" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjrXTS0Th6FYAh4JZLrHlnmYd8wyXmJEAS8xCzmfP76hIr3-4CnFIOcY4edaOQANMkJtjVQNl6MPttQhmLQBNNaJIpAkycBvAF9LtjpKfGXwFXuvAVVejURMLTP_UlbO-Jr_OaLhTA-hYBdjma2pfGMSYqclP8rZpDdT_kJzO7XbnQrWY0fIAFKPwj3/w310-h413/thumbnail_IMG_9164.jpg" width="310" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br />"Let's go through this field of cows"</span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">If you say that to me, my initial reaction will always be a big, loud "NO!". Cows scare me. Cows close to me freak me out (if there is not a wall in between). Cows on the move - well..... I've read stories of people being trampled to death by cows. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have gone through fields of cows in the past. I navigate the danger by sticking as close to the opposite side of the field as possible or I have a friend or family member in between me and the cows. I go through the fields of cows because other people make me. I go through fields of cows because it is the only way through.... and I haven't died yet by cow trample. I'm still here to tell the tale. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But I'd rather take a diversion (or go home). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On my walk yesterday I headed through a footpath through a field when I noticed a whole herd stood round their hay feeding trough cage thing. I thought to myself "I've been through worse than this, I can do this". So I opened the gate and took a few steps. Then I looked to my right and saw everything I dread. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">They weren't cows. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">They were bulls. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And from what I know about bulls, they were likely not to live in such a herd for long so these bulls would be young and frisky and their behaviour would be erratic. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">So, I decided not to risk it. I retraced my few steps and went back through the gate and took the road route instead. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We all have our limits. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the pandemic years we've all had to face our fields full of whatever scares us most. The isolation, the fear of getting ill, the loneliness, the lack of physical contact, the worry about others behaviour, our mental health deteriorating, our jobs being uncertain, not seeing family members, losing those closest to us, everything we've know being taken away...... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And we can all manage for a while, but..... we all have our limits. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Our limits are reached at the most unexpected times when our mind and eyes realise it's not just cows in the field (who we might manage), but it's bulls. The unexpected text message, the next piece of bad news, the nasty words from a nice persons mouth who you wouldn't ever dream they'd say something like that, being let down for the 27th time (the first 26 you could manage), stopping and not being able to move again as you're overwhelmed by it all.... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've had a number of pandemic moments where it has felt like there are bulls in the field and I've had to find another way (stopping has rarely been an option). I've learnt and am still learning my triggers that lead me to the brink of falling apart. I've learnt to say no more. I've learned when to stay in the field and when to leave for a while. I've walked away leaving others to deal with the field. I've learned some of my limits, and where I haven't, others have held me as my limits get broken. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">One of the purposes of taking time out is to work through the stuff that has felt like going through a field of bulls because there has been no other way. My question in those fields has always been "when do I keep going and when do I give up, and if I'm to keep going, how do I find rest and sustenance on the way". </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">My calling is one of courage, so unlike a meeting with a real bull in a field, I will try to keep on keeping on, and so I've had to find that rest and that sustenance on the way. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Jesus said "come to me all you who have heavy burdens, and I will give you rest, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light". </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's not that easy to understand when you're walking uphill through a field of bulls (I didn't mention there was a hill too). Perhaps it is in the outlook ahead - far ahead you know the exit to the field is there, so that hope of an ending is always a motivation.... but what about when you are in the thick of it? </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">In the thick of it - it's about seeking out goodness despite. It's knowing that what you are going to have to face can be faced because Jesus is with you. It's choosing to accept that this isn't the way things are meant to be and seeking out better ways within. It's about not expecting the worst and being justified when it happens, but expecting the best and learning to roll with it when you are disappointed. In every struggle there is always hope, in every lament there is always signs of restoration. The good news of Jesus tells this. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's knowing that despite the threat of the bulls in the field, that there is hope. It looks promising, that when the climb through the field is done, there will be something better ahead. It also looks promising on the journey that even if it hurts, that even if you feel you can do more, face no more bulls, that there will be rest stops on the way, even if they don't look like the usual rest stops. The hope of rest is now, and the hope of rest is ongoing. The hope of rest is fulfilled on the journey as well as at the end. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">We all have our limits, and where the only way through tests them as far as they can go because it seems like the only way through is through a field of bulls, Jesus promises to help you rest and keep on doing what you need to do too. It's OK to retrace your steps and find another way round..... and It's OK to sit down for a little while, even when the field ahead appears to be more challenging than you'd hope. Let Jesus take the strain. </span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-39620418519021274912022-05-03T15:03:00.005+01:002022-05-03T16:37:54.457+01:00Beauty in whose eye? <p>"<span style="font-family: verdana;">Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" - or so say all of us. Well, actually, (a quick google says), so said (sort of) 3rd Century BCE Greeks and so said Shakespeare in "Love's Labours Lost" (well sort of, but why not attribute it to him because he said something like that once - that's what we do with any common phrase). The first person to write this down in the form written above was, according to the quick google, actually probably a female writer called Margaret Wolfe Hungerford, who in her book "Molly Bawn" written in 1878. Does it matter though? Perhaps a little. It's a concept that is ancient, but a phrase that is more recent. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As a beholder of beauty, as it seems the phrase says all human beings are, my eyes have been caught by many beautiful things over the last few days. I've stopped and had chance to look around. My eyes have started to reopen from the shock of getting Covid in Holy Week and the exhaustion I've been feeling since the beginning of the year and as I head out on the long pause of sabbatical, I have had time to simply stop and look. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfeD0KKKa737bkwARSQL8wO-9P3xwAZgLQO57Ve126POLCfoSHYYOkeTrkOV7Lcdw1Ncc5dn4jwlKmpApCDKYTJcRJMdf485keXvCR8sbQcAs77PcdIJNHGhhIp3p3KN1RxYFEWSmUYTtXdxHvlhCh6LVCftbdq-ytD4hPUa8kZruGjmDO-VnIKJzm/s2118/9AA76904-8CD1-49A8-A7DD-285BB827FCBB.jpg" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2112" data-original-width="2118" height="319" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfeD0KKKa737bkwARSQL8wO-9P3xwAZgLQO57Ve126POLCfoSHYYOkeTrkOV7Lcdw1Ncc5dn4jwlKmpApCDKYTJcRJMdf485keXvCR8sbQcAs77PcdIJNHGhhIp3p3KN1RxYFEWSmUYTtXdxHvlhCh6LVCftbdq-ytD4hPUa8kZruGjmDO-VnIKJzm/s320/9AA76904-8CD1-49A8-A7DD-285BB827FCBB.jpg" width="320" /></a></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;">The first I want to mention is in St Paul's Cathedral. When you are not joining with your own church family to worship because one of the points of a sabbatical is to get space from all that has put demands on your limited energy and spiritual resources to refresh and rebuild, the question of where to worship is a perplexing one. However, as someone not averse to choral evensong, I felt taking the opportunity to worship under the dome of St Paul's had to be taken up (with the added bonus of an excellent preacher). <br /><br /></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">You're not meant to take photos when you go to worship in a Cathedral - it makes sense - it's as distracting as when someone tried to put a camera in my face when I was taking a wedding, but I took a sneaky one.... phone flat on knee in selfie mode looking up... because I like to take photos of beautiful things.... and looking up at the dome caught my breath. There is something about worshipping in a place where thousands and thousands have worshipped before and a place that was built so beautifully because its very purpose is to glorify God. Sitting in that place, looking up at the beauty above and listening to the Vicar's Choral, I couldn't help but be awestruck at the greatness of God speaking through those things. </span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLvgDgBLwSvAJQKPs9X4Gw8Jba-6o68gsw7_YbQ_UDvkKvopZEhd7lBABmjMsveVYFp7wJjhbUXBzacIwaSLPhI5kAEsK1idZyreRHR0voiC1pDbQLrZ9_T6oHf5zXEQxvyZ2NxIgNBzYGn90doE1QwDKUhm23FCc1OHDd-9ja3KH0r4NKLlCwC0fx/s2048/woods.JPEG" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgLvgDgBLwSvAJQKPs9X4Gw8Jba-6o68gsw7_YbQ_UDvkKvopZEhd7lBABmjMsveVYFp7wJjhbUXBzacIwaSLPhI5kAEsK1idZyreRHR0voiC1pDbQLrZ9_T6oHf5zXEQxvyZ2NxIgNBzYGn90doE1QwDKUhm23FCc1OHDd-9ja3KH0r4NKLlCwC0fx/s320/woods.JPEG" width="240" /></a></span></div><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The second I want to mention is when I arrived on retreat. After my cup of tea and getting my bearings, I decided to explore the grounds. I walked towards the views surrounded by the songs of birds and sheep declaring so much of who they are. I then walked into the woods - it was early evening and there is something about that time when everything is getting ready to go to sleep. I stumbled across an open air theatre that I had seen on the map but had forgotten about. It looked like it hadn't been used for a while, the grass growing and tumbling down the tiered seating punctuated by flowers of purple and pink and white. I ascended the steps into the woods from the theatre stage, the steps were almost hidden, like they were designed to not interrupt the flow of the forest floor, instead absorbing a field of wild garlic flowers and bluebells that took my breath away. I couldn't help but be awestruck at the greatness of God speaking through those things. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The first designed and realised by creative humans using the gifts given to them by the one who created them. The second revealed as the seasons and the ways of the woods took hold, a beauty that is timeless, yet intricately woven by the the one who developed the natural systems that made it all possible. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Beauty - in the eye of the beholder. Beauty - to glorify God and celebrate all He has made. What we see takes our breath away because God made it that way. In the hands of the artists and craftspeople who built St Paul's massive dome and painted the art it holds mightily, in the hands of the seasons and the spreading of the roots and the seeds. God places his gift of beauty to grow and to flourish and to form and become all it can be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Into our hands God gives the ability to create something beautiful, something to be gasped at, something to enjoy. To our eyes he gifts ready made beauty to inspire, to celebrate and to stop and wonder. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the ultimate beholder, the creator, beholds us, and from the beginning of our lives, before anyone had even met us, he beheld us and declared 'very good'. When we look at the world around us, and are awestruck by its beauty and value, we need to remember time and time again that that is how the creator looks at us too. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I've gone through all the emotions the last few months and years - feeling like I'm brilliant, feeling like I've done good work, feeling like I am the worst person in the world, feeling like I am useless, feeling like I will never live up to expectations, feeling like I'm winning, feeling like I am failing, and perhaps I've been all of those things .....but.... when I look at that dome and I walk through those woods, it reminds me, that however I am feeling, however I am winning or however I am failing, God is there, and he is helping me be the best he created me to be, wherever I am (I might have to listen better sometimes, but he is, he really is).</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And he is doing the same with you too. It's him that makes you and the work of your hands and your mind and your heart beautiful, and where it feels no-one else can see it, he does (and you'll probably find that there <i>are </i>others that have seen it too). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">(I'm now off to be creative in the art shed.... good job God sees the beauty in that....).</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6073141054609730168.post-74256627592565998842022-04-15T11:03:00.003+01:002022-04-15T11:06:04.768+01:00Forsaken<p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i></i></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgq3g0-N6RBuHjFHDWA7B3aRrT0tfHTGwKMm8EIaOMNsbYkxNoBfI782i00tSbO9h6Eo782xYkgzJWxeoJUfHfy2YJeiKwttFlBi-x6rFw-eTLW_5mR4Gu1YuuwJSD0XQyFHBNHqK3a2GS1-WBNXxwlIBJx-BrK9xu1asbZX8wUNkXolUwSbSZu38Nz/s2048/57289444_10155809641606650_276438436066361344_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="1536" height="640" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgq3g0-N6RBuHjFHDWA7B3aRrT0tfHTGwKMm8EIaOMNsbYkxNoBfI782i00tSbO9h6Eo782xYkgzJWxeoJUfHfy2YJeiKwttFlBi-x6rFw-eTLW_5mR4Gu1YuuwJSD0XQyFHBNHqK3a2GS1-WBNXxwlIBJx-BrK9xu1asbZX8wUNkXolUwSbSZu38Nz/w480-h640/57289444_10155809641606650_276438436066361344_n.jpg" width="480" /></a></i></span></div><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i><br /><br /></i></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><i>"Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?"</i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">"My God, My God, Why have you forsaken me?"</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The figure on the cross among many cried out, feeling more alone than he had ever done before. Despite the crowds below and the others being crucified around, that moment was just him in his agonising pain and his emptiness. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">His followers and friends were scattered - whilst loyal, they were fearful and they were standing well back. The questions of a future without their leader were racing around their heads. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The ones who were closer were the ones who wanted to see the death, they were the ones who condemned him to death, this was normal life - this was their role - their role was to stand by and watch and wait. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And the one who was always closest - Father God - seemed further away than he had ever been before. In fact, he seemed absent. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But as Jesus hung alone on that cross, the world began to shift. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">I have spent Holy Week in Covid isolation and inevitably I've been reflecting on what it means to be lonely. The week</span><span style="font-family: verdana;"> has been a complete change of pace, moving from 'how on earth am I going to get this done' to 'what do I do when all of this has been taken away'. It's been a week where I have been cared for deeply, and have had the chance to rest that I was waiting for but didn't expect for another three weeks. It's been a week where I've had time to begin to reflect on the last two years, have got over some fears that I had before, and have learnt to let go and trust. Someone wrote on a comment on a facebook post that perhaps this was an answer to an unspoken prayer, and whilst I'd like to think it wasn't (and those covering for me would say 'no way'), there is something about this weeks journey that that comment resonates with. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">It's also a week when I have had more time to focus on the news, and in particular the stories that people have been telling in response to Partygate (where the government have now (finally) been fined for breaking the law during lockdown). </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The stories that people are telling are stories of grief, stories of pain, stories of agony, stories of loss and abandonment, stories of guilt. They tell of the struggle to say goodbye to a dying relative over the phone, the last time they saw their Mum, their Dad, their child from the driveway through a window. They tell of the funerals where only one or two people attended, had to say goodbye in the graveyard and went on their way. They tell of the fear of travelling 100 miles to a funeral and being arrested on the way. They speak of the guilt now felt that if the government were having parties, that a little wake might have been OK, and by not having one they let their lost loved one down. They tell the stories of no funeral at all. The accounts of nurses and doctors and teachers who would have loved to do what the government did, but instead they had kettles and fridges and staffrooms taken away and went home to take off their clothes into the washing machine and shower before they could go anywhere near the vulnerable family members within. They tell the stories of everyone who felt they were 'in this together' when the ones who were promoting this idea were definitely not. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">And there are many more stories unsaid. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">The loneliness of sickness and death in lockdown, of difficult situations and mental health crises, of no human touch, of lacklustre zoom celebrations, of forsakenness, of dealing with grief alone, it leaves a wound that has been opened before it had time to heal in the parties of those who were setting the example, leading the way.... and as the wounds weep, the collective groaning is sounding in our ears. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">As we walk through Jesus' journey to the cross on Good Friday, that groaning is in each footstep he takes, each movement of the nail in his hands, each cry out in agony that comes from his mouth. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On Good Friday, we remember the lonely figure of Jesus, abandoned on that cross, and we see someone who understands and whose voice and actions speak deeply into the grief and forsakenness we feel today.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On that cross Jesus knew what it was like to die alone.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On that cross Jesus knew what it was like to feel like he had been let down. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On that cross Jesus knew what it was like to carry all the guilt and sins of the world. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On that cross Jesus knew what it was like to have everything stripped away. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On that cross Jesus knew agonising pain through his body and his mind. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">But on that cross Jesus knew that whatever it was like right now, as the wounds weep, the healing has already begun. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On Good Friday, as all the questions and the stories and the brokenness hang in the air, know that Jesus understands. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On Good Friday, as the world begins to shift, and amongst the broken, there begin to be little glimmers of something better, know that the way things are right now are not the way things will always be. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;">On Good Friday know that in the struggles you face right now, that God has not abandoned you, in fact he is here, in the struggle, facing it head on alongside you. And because he is with you in the struggle, this constant uphill battle won't be forever, because Good Friday leads us on a journey to Sunday and the victory.... it's already won. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: verdana;"><br /></span></p><p> </p>Clairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12552478010158348497noreply@blogger.com0