Showing posts with label facebook. Show all posts
Showing posts with label facebook. Show all posts

Thursday, 2 April 2020

Pressing the reset button

I'm in the middle of love facebook hate facebook tension. 

Facebook is a wonder because its keeping me in touch with friends and family when I am not allowed social contact that is not through the air or wires or special magic that means the voice comes out of my fireplace (that's Harry Potter, not real life - must remember). 

Facebook (and other social media joy) is also a frustration. It's full at the moment with games that say 'the rules are' (are these strict rules for copying and pasting a way of taking back a little bit of the control that didn't come back with Brexit and is definitely not anywhere near right now?). But it's also full of the thing that took me to blogspot to write this post.....

That's those posts that like to tell us that Coronavirus is a good thing - just look at all the good its doing they say....

We're creating new ways of being church they say - how wonderful - 5643 people watched my sermon last week (yes but it's rubbish being online - we're just making the best of a bad situation - and those 5643 people is probably one person refreshing 5462 times) 

Look at how the community is coming together they say (yes but you'll find that people come together in a crisis and it is perhaps because we're in an enforced break from real life that people are being nicer, but will it continue when life returns to normal? I'm not sure - I hope it does!)

Look at how the environment is better they say - all the pollution is gone (yes but do we really believe that when we're allowed out again people aren't going to turn the pollution button back on - how are we going to stop that happening?)

Look at how families are spending time together they say - (yes that's great for those families that live together - but what about the separated parents where the children can't see one parent for health reasons or what about the single person households who won't experience family life like that again for sometimes, what about the wife who can't visit her husband in the care home because it's on lock down? What about the woman in fear of her life because she can’t escape the violence.....Do we really think that's a good thing?).

Look at how people are realising that money isn't everything they say (but what about the people who are in fear of losing their homes when this is over, or their jobs when the government rescue passage leaves them sidelined or the business they work for goes under - I'm sorry (well I'm not) but that's a rich person's benefit and nobody elses).

I've read a few times the phrase 'nature is setting the reset button'. 

What is Coronavirus then? A punishment for all that we have done? Nature saying ‘I’ve had enough of you?’

By saying that this is some sort of reset button, you are putting the blame for all the suffering, all the pain, all the chaos, all the death, all the uncertainty and fear on those who are suffering - we've been walking against nature and now nature has put this in our path it can sort itself out. 

That's a poor perspective, particularly from those people who claim to not believe in anything outside of their comprehension. What is nature? How does it have control? 

I believe in a God who is creator - he created a perfect world, and because of the actions of human beings the world broke. It fell. Creation groans. 

And right now creation is groaning. 

But that doesn't mean I think this is a punishment from God. He’s not pressed some kind of reset button. 

This is a result of a broken world. Where is God in all of this? He is sitting in the hospitals holding the hands of the dying. He is an extra guest at the funerals nobody can attend comforting the families. He is sitting in the homes of the lonely, providing comfort. He is promising a day when this will be no more. 

But he is not setting the reset button. How can we justify 1000s, 10000s possibly millions of deaths because families are able to sit round the dinner table? How can we justify so much loss because I can see the city of London so clearly from round the corner because of the lack of pollution? How can we justify the pain and the suffering because we can now stream our services online and it will change the church forever? 

We can't. 

God, our God, is a God of restoration. He is God who moved into the neighbourhood in flesh and blood and walked with people in their most painful moments. He is God the Father who sent His Son to live on earth to die on the cross to take our wrongness, our shame and sin and provide a way out of the brokenness. God doesn't need to send a virus, set the reset button, cause this kind of chaos, because the reset button has already been pressed and that is in Jesus. 

By all means, look for hope in the suffering, that’s important, but also acknowledge the suffering. In Holy Week we walk through the suffering before we find the hope of resurrection. There will be a day when all is restored, but right now, it's more than a bit rubbish, and we've got to acknowledge that and stop telling people to 'chin up' in new facebook ways.

I read a prayer last night written by someone who suffers from a chronic illness that means she basically can't move because it hurts. It spoke more deeply into this situation than anything else I've read, so here it is - go read it - click here - she speaks into the reality of the situation - speaks of hope but acknowledges despair - as we live through the hard stuff, hope is there, but we’ve got to acknowledge that there is pain in the suffering - and that God is still here sitting with us amongst it.  

"Blessed be your name
when the sun's shining down on me
When the world's 'all as it should be'
Blessed be your name

Blessed be your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be your name"                  Matt Redman




Tuesday, 11 February 2014

My Love-Hate Relationship


I love facebook. It is a great way of keeping in touch with people who I haven't seen for a long time. Living alone, it keeps me company. I like expressing my opinions, talking about what I am up to. engaging with the world. Facebook enables me to make contact with more people much more quickly and with great efficiency. 

I hate facebook. I know too much about people's lives. I once deleted someone because he kept putting pictures of his new girlfriend in states of undress on his page (why would you do that?). Some people have too many opinions (I once deleted someone because she commented on everything I wrote and nothing she ever said made sense and she didn't actually KNOW me). Some people are just irritating. 

I love facebook. It's in facebook I have managed to make connections with people I would otherwise have lost touch with. I know much more of what my family and close friends are up to and we can share photos so much more easily. I have joined groups and liked pages where I get things that make me think, things that make me laugh and are places where I can just have a good old moan. 

I hate facebook. I keep on nearly leaving. I have had friends who have left because of the difficulties they are going through and how facebook adversely affects them. We become obsessed with other people's lives - what we can't have. When someone throws some good news in your face and it's the kind of good news you would love to have. When it's covered with photos of loved up couples and babies, of people who have perfect lives..... I've seen people been torn apart by that. 

I love facebook. It is a place where I can see the world in a different way. It's a place where I see people totally passionate about what they believe in. It's a place where I connect with people I wouldn't be able to connect to in any other way. 

I hate facebook. It uses up too much of my time. I once spent a day off facebook, it felt like the chains had gone. It's scarily addictive and feels like a necessity. 

It's the 10th Anniversary of facebook. You can't escape it. Those videos are everywhere. I made one myself. After I made mine the 'edit' function was introduced - in case you weren't happy with your facebook life. Says it all really. We're all guilty of it - we edit our lives on facebook to become something that shows us in our best light. I have always had a policy of not de-tagging myself on photos - but it's tempting. I don't want people to see me looking awful. Yet this is me, I am who I am. I should be who I am on facebook. 

I've recently started to use facebook slightly differently in a way that reflects how I am trying to live. It is in a way that is inspired by a woman I met in India who said that despite all of the trouble at home she saw God's blessings in the tiniest of things and it reminded her that God is with her. A friend introduced my to 100 Happy Days (my photos). I don't expect to be totally happy for 100 days, but I'm expecting to take the time to look for the tiny (and bigger) blessings in life where I remember God's goodness. It's been great to see so many people take up this challenge and I love seeing people think a little differently about what has blessed them during that day. 

I love facebook, but I hate it's superficialness. However, by sharing something of the every day and seeing parts of other people's every day it's blessed me more recently in more ways than it has in a long time. 

Even where we create a fake us - where we lie about what we have been doing to make ourselves look better (there was once a woman who used to write she was doing a 5k run and would go to the shop and come back in 5 minutes) - when we consider God reading our facebook page - he knows us intimately and knows exactly what we need even where we don't know what we need ourselves. He's the one who blesses us - not the number of likes on a status or the congratulations we crave.... it's God - and he knows where we've de-tagged, edited statuses, shouted, blocked and deleted. He knows. 

"O Eternal One, You have explored my heart and know exactly who I am;
You even know the small details like when I take a seat and when I stand up again.
    Even when I am far away, You know what I’m thinking.
You observe my wanderings and my sleeping, my waking and my dreaming,
    and You know everything I do in more detail than even I know.
You know what I’m going to say long before I say it.
    It is true, Eternal One, that You know everything and everyone.
You have surrounded me on every side, behind me and before me,
    and You have placed Your hand gently on my shoulder.
It is the most amazing feeling to know how deeply You know me, inside and out;
    the realization of it is so great that I cannot comprehend it."   

                                                                               Psalm 139:1-6 (The Voice)